Suzanne SxySadist’s Personal Blog

So after dragging my ass off to bed really damn late Friday night or early Saturday morning depending on how you look at it (I do know no matter how you clock it is was MUCH later for me since I was still on East coast time) I managed to get into a shower and then grab a few hours sleep before getting up in time to make it to the first class slot on Sat.  It was a really tough decision for me. My friend Mark Yu who has a vast wealth of knowledge concerning chinese medicine and acupuncture and pressure points and tons of other things I so want to learn more about was doing a basic class on energy work, and at the same time my new friend Sophia was doing a class on Anatomy as it relates to BDSM and I was quite curious to see what I could pick up from her since I had been adding a short anatomy component to my Caning and Percusion play class (which I was doing in the next class slot following lunch.  So I went to Sophia’s class and really enjoyed her presenting style tremendously.  She answered quite a few questions and  gave a lot of really useful information to the folks that were there.  After her class we went to lunch together and ended up in a great little noodle shop chatting and geting to know each other a bit better. 

We raced back after lunch and I had two classes in a row to do: My Ecstatic Caning class followed by the hands on “Binding the Jewels” male genital bondage class, which is always a crowd pleaser. Both were really well attended and I was really delighted by the feedback I got on all of my classes! 

I finished off the day by attending the  second of Master K’s two classes on shibari in which he did several demos, a chest tie or two and a seated ebi (the position for those that don’t know the japeanese term for “prawn” involves the model to be seated cross legged with hands tied behind the back and then chest tied bent far forward so that th forhead of this very flexible model could touch the floor). I could definitely see why he has the reputation he does for exquisitly beautiful and meticulous rope work.

After the day’s classes were finished Sophia and I joined Adrienne and Jay for dinner in the hotel and had a really delicious sushi & sashimi platter. (Mmm I adore good sushi!) After dinner she and I freshened up and got ready for another evening of dungeon festivities.  This time she asked if she could suspend me (woohoo more yummy rope time for Suze, <grin> this is a very good thing)! She is also quite good with rope and she rigged me up in a way that still allowed me a fair bit of dynamic movement and I had a hell of a lot of fun swinging around and “flying through the air” while we played a bit off each othere’s energy!

Afterwards I relaxed for a bit and walked around watching some really sexy rope scenes that Mick & Dee and Charly and his friend Romi were doing.  I am a rope slut through and through and love watching others rig almost as much as I love tying folks myself and being tied. Rope is such an amazing medium and there are endless ways to employ it on flesh. I truly enjoyed spending so much time with all of my ropey folks, Mick & Dee Luvbight, Sophia Sky, Michael Sol and Charly B, and I look forward to seeing them all again at Shibaricon!! 

Later that evening Michael Sol asked me if I wanted to help him rig a scene that involved typing a lovely woman to a christian cross that was suspended horizontally off the ground.  I had never attempted a scene like that befpre and so I was intrigued by the logistics and design aspects as well as the mental, spiritual and visual aspects of the scene.  It was a really interesting adventure in itself and there are times I really do wish that we were permitted to take photos in the dungeon because I would have liked to photo of that scene to remember it by.

Once again I was one of the last people out of the dungeon and in fact when I left that had already started breaking it down.  I was totally wiped though and the jet lag was really taking a toll on me so by the time I got back up to my room I hit a quick shower and crashed.

The next moning was the day of the big street fair and I will stop back soon to tell you more about it!! 

I was scheduled to teach 3 classes at the Fringe: the first one, my Ecstatic Breath class kicked off at 1pm on Friday to a fairly small audience of about a dozen people but considering most folks didn’t arrive until later that evening I guess it wasn’t too small a crowd. I love that class and I am always blown away by the kind of folks that show up for it. Many times they already have some knowledge of breath and the amazing effects you can achieve with it. 

This time around it was wonderful to see “Angel” whom I had met previously at “Thunder in the Mountains” in July as well as a really wonderful couple known as Salty and Lightheart who had admitted to using breath in the past in Tantric work.  When it came time to demonstrate the some light percussion play leading up to a “Big Draw” breath exercise I asked Lightheart and her partner if she could assist me and she was wonderful. Granted with the abbreviated 90 min class schedule I didn’t have time for an intense demo but I still think it helped to get the gist of it across.  

After my class I went to the first of 2 classes offered by Master K.  He is arguably one of the most respected yet reclusive rope Masters in the US.  My buddy Michael Sol the educational programming director must have really stepped in it to get “K” to teach 2 classes at this event because I hear he has NEVER done a conference before!  It was a fascinating history of Japanese bondage and its evolution from hojo jutsu to kinbaku. I am not usually a big fan of the history of things, preferring to just “be in the moment and the doing of a thing” rather than philosophizing and talking about it or tracing its roots and etymology but “Master K” used a power point slide show that had a fabulous array of block prints, drawings and photographs (although he admitted to not liking the technology thing and prefers to express himself through rope).

After K’s class I managed to latch onto a dinner trip to the “In & Out Burger” place with Adrienne, Jay, Michael Sol & Sophia for some great conversational bonding over an awesome burger! Then back to the hotel for a shower and a change of clothes. Hmm sexy and fetishy but still relatively comfortable. Ahh yes.. then down to the dungeon for some fun.

I watched Michael Sol and Sophia do some tag team suspensions for awhile and then Lightheart and her partner came to me bearing gifts.  Two lovely thin paddles that were made by Salty and the offering of trying them out! ;)  (wink) She was absolutely a delight to play with! Such beautuful and sweet energy!

After wards Charly B asked if he could suspend me and I was delighted to say yes because I have not had near enough rope time lately!  He rigged me into a fairly comfy suspenion and I got a really nice bit of “float time”. 

After that Sphia asked if i would be up for throwing some tails at her and hell I would never say no to throwing my whip at a pretty girl so we ended up pretty much closing the dungeon with her dancing at the end on my 4 foot Wheeler. <big happy grin>

Saturday details coming soon.. I need some sleep I have a session in the am….

Whew.. OMG what a great event folks! I am sleep deprived and exhausted, a bit sun burned and aching all over but let me see if I can run you a nutshell recap to start with.

I flew out of NY early last Thursday to come attend and present at Folsom Fringe in San Jose CA. Folsom Fringe is not directly affiliated with the Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco but takes place the Friday and Saturday prior.  Overall it was a really great event! Nice people, great presenters & classes, decent dungeon space in a beautiful hotel. What more can you ask for?

Thursday night was pretty much a get landed and settle in evening.  I registered and went to the nice little social they had in the bar, met a bunch of new folks from the west coast and got to spend time with some folks I had met previously but never really got to hang out with much.  

Chiefly I enjoyed spending time with Mick & Dee Luvbight who I had met at Shibaricon several years ago and have always admired.  Mick does some fabulous rope work and Dee is simply a radiant and beautiful spirit! They run a free bondage site at…..  drum roll please… www.Luvbight.com and in fact won on 4 of the top catageories of the 2008 Bondage awards! (Pretty impressive!) 

I also got to connect with Sophia Sky who I had only met briefly at Shibaricon through her “daddy” Jim Duvall (who I REALLY like playing with on occasion as well).  Sophia is not only absolutely stunning to look at but also just so much fun to be around.  She has a delightfully bubbly energy that I just loved to be around.  In fact she and I played together Friday and Saturday nights but I am getting ahead of myself a bit.

Ok so as I was saying .. Thursday, relaxing in the bar.. met a really nice couple named Adrienne and Jay.  Adrienne was presenting for the first time on “coming out”.  I also got to be reintroduced to Lew Rubens of Bound N Determined and Kink.com  I have to say I was really impressed with how unassuming and friendly he was.  I am not sure why I had a totally different impression of him, we had only met briefly quite a few years ago the last year Bondcon was held in NY, but I was pleasantly surprised and I very much enjoyed chatting him up as well.  

So after a few drinks and a fair bit of chat I called it a night so that I could be bright eyed and bushy tailed to do my first class the next day…

Ok I know and I am sorry.  I am a dreadful blogger at best these days but life just seems to get in the way all too often lately.  I even had someone write to me anonymously asking me to update my blog with my daily activities… ha ha ha!  Umm so ok .. this post is for you who ever you are.  Let’s see what shall I recap for you…  let’s pick a 24 hour period in the life… Hmm how about last Friday for instance.

I woke up around 8am still sniffling and sneezing with a cold that has been doing its damnedest to make my life miserable for the better part of a week. I had a 2 hr session booked starting at 1030 am .. I do the morning email thing and call the client to ask is he sure he wants to take a chance on catching this particular brand of bug .. (ethically it is the right thing to do).  He says he is not easily scared and decides to brave it for one hour rather than two theoretically so I can rest afterwards as well. (Nice thought that but not likely).   I proceed to start getting ready .. the phone rings.. it’s my god child’s mom asking me if I remember that they need me to get the “wee one” onto the bus that morning (I have been helping out a far bit the last couple weeks with the am / pm bus thing) but I swear though I don’t recall her asking me about that particular day and I am usually REALLY good about writing them into my calendar so somehow that one got miscommunicated!  Regardless of who forgot it .. it is now an issue… Oh man, mommy has a meeting she needs to leave for by 1130 to get to on time… DAMN major 15 - 20 min schedule conflict!

I ask my live in slave T for a favor … would he run and sit with the wee one at 1130 so mommy can leave on time and I will be over asap after I finish the session. He says yes of course.. (he is such a great guy on many levels!).  Client arrives 1030 on the dot .. first timer to me … and REALLY nice guy .. kind of cute .. quite nicely hung and enough of a masochist to get me going. <grin>  I decide I could use some stress relief!!  <bigger grin>  I throw him into a sweet cock and ball bondage.. (see photo right).  And boy oh boy I had some fun with predicament ties!!  He whimpers really pretty!!  Like man I really didn’t want to have to leave .. but I had a commitment so I actually decide to send the pretty new slave boy home in my rope. He mailed me this photo and several others later that night.  <grin>

I get done with the session without a minute to spare, get changed to vanilla gear and race over to my god child’s house within 20 mins so slave T can keep his lunch date that he had scheduled.  I am hanging with my favorite girl waiting for the bus when her daddy calls… Danni another very close member of our leather family that lives in the household there, got the call that his mom who has been battling cancer probably won’t make it through the day.   The wee one and I almost miss the bus while I am on the phone .. we run down the hill to catch the bus .. wee one off to school, whew mission accomplished!!  

I am about to head home to try to rest when Danni arrived home looking naturally devastated. I decide to stay and try to console him and help him book flights to get to where his mom & dad live.  The fares are outrageous unless you can get the bereavement fare which is half the price but only valid if the person is already dead.  Grrr!!!

I was a travel agent for many years and continue checking and trying and calling and there is no way to get him out that same day… the best we can do is the next morning out of Newark for $1100 bucks round trip unless she passes.  He doesn’t have enough and I don’t have a credit card with me.  I run home to get a card and to shower and pack what I need for a class that I am teaching in NY city that night for LSM (Lesbian Sex Mafia) on Breath & Blood Flow Play.  I race back to the house in time to get the wee one off the bus so that Danni doesn’t have to worry about that , I get her a snack and settled, help her with her homework (all of life should be so hard as the homeork you get in kindergarten) <grin> Then back to the flight booking thing… but while we are getting ready to book the outrageously high fare his phone rings and he is told his mom has passed!  :( <long pause>     Umm…. oww.  That sucks and what do you say when a good friend loses their mom?  Lots of hugs and tears and there isn’t a lot to say but .. now he can have the same flights for half what it was 10 mins ago.  Talk about not knowing how to feel .. ugghhh!!  So .. we get the flight booked ..and it is decided that I will drive him to Newark the next day and in the meantime  ”Daddy Myke” has made chicken soup and I have a bowl with the family after realizing that I had not stopped once all damn day to eat and then I kiss everyone goodbye and I race out the door to get to the city.

Naturally, what should have been a 90 min drive took over 2 hrs with traffic and then by the time I found a place to park I was at least 20 mins late.  Damn damn damn!!  And understandably more than a bit flustered. It was honestly not one of my best classes and I definitely felt scattered during that one but I still got quite a few great feedback sheets and some really great comments from folks that came to talk to me afterwards. 

We wrap up and I am thinking, “Whew what a friggin’ day!! And Yes I would LOVE to go to the diner and sit for a spell and grab a bite to eat”.  I order the Ahi Tuna over mixed greens with fruit and it looks lovely and then when I bite into it I chomped down on a big chunk of clam shell!! Ouch! That really hurt!! Like I am actually lucky I didn’t break a tooth! It just figured with the way my day had been going that something else HAD to go wrong right?  Well the manager wanted to bring me another salad but I had sort of lost my appetite .. I mean hell there weren’t even any clams in my meal .. where did that damn shell come from and how did it get into my salad?  Yuck!! I am not usually a “class A bitch” or one to complain needlessly but that sort of sucked you know? So I sent the rest of it back uneaten so they did take it off the check and comped me my cup of tea.  <smile> I really needed that cup of tea too.. it just so happened that they had Harney’s Earl Grey Supreme so that made up for it but I sure couldn’t wait to get my but home and back into my own cozy bed.  Two hours later .. around 2am I arrived .. slipped upstairs and into my jammies. What a damn day!! 

The next morning my sweetheart Brett was there and I was so glad to see him.  <smile> There was a fair bit more drama at the house that involved ambulances and me watching the wee one again for several hours while poor Brett trekked to NJ to take Danni to the airport but I will spare you the gory details of that next drana filled day. All in all .. I think it gives you a glimpse into the not so damn glamorous life of anything but leisure that I lead.  No it is not ALWAYS quite THAT crazy but I do keep pretty busy most weeks and so I am sorry when I don’t stop bye here to update this thing but it generally isn’t just laziness, I swear. :(     

Tonight I am running around finishing up some packing for a 5 day trip to CA.  I have a 2 hour session tomorrow morning .. then I have to finish packing and go to dinner with my sweetheart and crash early becayse he is driving me to the airport very early Thursday.  

I am teaching three classes at Folsom Fringe in San Jose on Friday and Saturday then catching the infamous street fair on Sunday and flying home Monday night.  Tuesday I get to start the insanity all over again with the am & pm bus duty with the wee one and then a 2 hour session that night starting at 530!  Wed I am hoping to spend a little quality time with my sweetheart (who isn’t coming to CA) and then I have multi hour sessions booked on Friday and Sat already! Whew!  I am sooo ready for a little vacation I think!

My last scheduled event of this year will be Black Rose in DC Halloween weekend.  I hope to see a bunch of folks I know and love there and then I am looking forward to taking some time off of all the travelling until after the holidays!  I will stop back after Folsom and let you know how it was. Hugs!!

Yin, who is someone I respect tremendously emailed me this week to ask if I would participate in a monthly  fundraising effort to help a friend of hers under going cancer treatment.  I am honoured to accept and will be one of the rope instructors at the Feb 28th incarnation of this on going monthly event. 

In the meantime I want to post the info because I would like to spread the word about this event in the hopes that some of the folks reading my blog will either want to attend one of these classes or simply help with the cause.   I hope to see some of you in Feb!  Hugs!

Rope Share Fundraiser

Date/time: Sept 27^th, Saturday, 1pm

Location:  110 Greenwich St. apt 5D

(btwn Rector and Carlisle; three blocks south of the WTC site)

Donation: $25- and up/per person

Instructors: DeLano, Andy, and Yin     assistant: Michele Serchuk

The Rope Share is a bondage workshop that is structured to fit your skill levels and interests.  There are three highly skilled, bondage instructors and a teaching assistant.  The attendance will be limited to 12 students and divided into three groups so you will get individual attention and tutoring. 

If you are a beginner, an instructor will teach you the basics of safety, negotiations, and the elemental ties needed to start your bondage exploration.  If you are an intermediate player and are interested in advancing your rope skills, are curious about how to tie a certain harness or position, or want to learn more about body positions and how certain ties affect your bottom’s headspace, this is a perfect environment to ask those questions.  If you are an advanced player and want to see how other rope tops tie, how different styles can enhance your own, this is a safe, non-ego space to hang out and play.

Couples are encouraged to attend together, but singles are also welcome as this will be held in a lab environment.  Please be open to dance both parts for the sake of the education.

Bring Rope: 4 lengths of 25 ft. rope; 2 lengths of 50 ft.; and safety scissors.  Cotton, nylon, hemp, and jute are all fine. 

ALL proceeds will be donated to benefit our dear friend and rope bondage enthusiast, Vanessa, as she fights the battle of Lymphoma B cancer.  We plan to continue this workshop as a monthly event for as long as it is necessary.  Future workshops will include Men-only and Women-only attendance so please inquire about those dates if that is a concern.

To sign up, contact Yin at Yin.Quan@gmail.com.  For the men’s-only workshop, please contact Andy at BikeguyNYC@gmail.com.  Title the subject line as “Rope Share Sign Up” and include the following information in your email:

1. Your name (Scene name or legal)
2. Contact number and email address
3. Rope bondage experience and skill level (Please be brief)
4. What you are interested in learning
5. How you heard about this workshop

Sign up now as places are expected to fill quickly!  Beginners to advance rope players are all welcome!! This is a safe space to share and learn rope bondage as a top or a bottom.