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Hey all .. I have created a new seperate blog that I am going to use to promote my NiteFlirt Domination Phonesex services, fetish photos & videos and slave training assignments etc.  The reason I have decided to build it as a seperate entity is so that I can still keep this blog as a place that I can talk about the “softer side of Suze”, including my less sexy adventures and my real life outside of the dungeon while allowing that to be  a more “vanilla free zone”. 

I plan to take and post more erotic photos there as well as write teaser stories that I can illustrate with some of the 1000s of fetish photos in my archives (naturally with a link encouraging folks to buy more). ;)  I am also going to be reposting my product and sex toy reviews as well as my tutorials and other educational articles.

The new blog’s url is currently www.sxysadist.com/Flirts/Blog or you can click on the screen shot below:

Male Chastity w/ Teeth

My last installment about male chastity devices basically covered the “CB” product line which offer a nice selection of basic inexpensive chastity devices. If properly fitted they are fairly secure and only moderately uncomfortable … but have I mentioned that I am a sadist at heart? Or that I adore CBT (aka Cock & Ball Torture)?

I absolutely admit to taking perverse pleasure in locking a man’s cock into a device that will cause him excruciating pain if he begins to get an erection, and of course once he is in it, I love to tease him and make him cry, beg and whimper as I do my best to get and keep him hard.

You can analyze that any way you wish but it is absolutely delightfully wicked fun for me and so I totally enjoy collecting cruel chastity items and other things that go “Ow”! Let me tell you about a few of my faves!!

The Dreaded KTB - Kali’s Tooth Bracelet!!

Mmm Let’s Get Mean! - My all time favorite chastity device is still the original Kali’s Teeth Bracelet (pictured below) These babies were absolutely ingenious! Once locked in place they were streamlined sexy, secure as hell, lightweight enough that they could remain on without “dragging”, and they had the most delightfully vicious teeth that were available in different degrees of cruelty! Obviously the most severe one was most suitable for men with castration fantasies and the women that love them.

My ex had one and I used to love locking him into it for entire weekends at a time! I especially loved putting it onto him and then going down on him because it would make him insane that as much as he loved my lips around his cock it was also pure agony at the same time. (Did I mention I am a sadist?) I would give pretty much anything (and be an extremely grateful Mistress) to get my hands on an original KTB or a very reasonable facsimile there of! Any takers??

Club Fem’s MCD -

The folks over at Club Fem are offering a sweet little plastic version of a toothed chastity device that they call simply the MCD - Male Chastity DeviceI ordered recently and intend to check out thoroughly as soon as it arrives and get back to you with a full report!

It is quite inexpensive and looks to have great potential for longer term wear than other devices I have seen since it is lightweight, not overly vicious and appears easy to keep clean. I am very excited indeed!

The SxySadist Toothed Ring!

While I await that happy day that one of those falls into my lap again, my buddy Rick over at Dungeon Delights has been creating a really delightful selection of heavier, meatier substitutes for me and even named them after me!!

Check these babies out! It all started one Sunday morning as I lay in bed cruising the web looking for new devices to torment my lover’s cock when I came across the Dungeon Delights website. They had a really nice locking cock ring shown on the site that intrigued me so I gave them a call (and was actually quite surprised that they answered the phone on a Sunday morning) and had a lovely chat with Rick about the KTB.

Barely a week later I had a set of proto types in my hot little hands to check out! Talk about fast and efficient service! Wow!!

They are beautifully crafted devices and definitely built to last! They offer a variety of intensities depending on how many rows and how long you want the nails.

Are they mean? Hell Yeah! These nails are definitely sharp but no where near as sharp as the KTB was so they are actually a bit safer in my opinion. Although his website warns that these are sharp enough to break the skin that has not been my experience so far. I have had some serious “dents” in the cock but so far no blood drawn (although I am not gaurenteeing that to anyone).

The powder coating makes them easy to clean and they are definitely beautiful in an industrial heavy metal sort of way!! My main complaint with them is that they are soo damn heavy that they have a tendency to slide off the moment the erection waivers so they were not terribly suited for long term wear. <Boo hoo hoo!>

Then Rick came out with the double ring version! <Yayy!> Again, not elegant but definitely gets the job done and I feel fairly reasonably priced!! JT’s has started offering them also under the original Kali’s Teeth name in the Beginner and Advanced versions. Maybe I am a little bit biased but I think EVERYONE should own a couple of them! And then come on over here so I can help do more market research! More soon!

The following letter was sent to me today by one of my dearest friends but it originally went to Dear Abby and it really touched me too. I spent several hours this week helping my favorite little person wite her first set of Valentine cards. (Mostly she wrote them with a great deal of prodding and encouragement from me and I had to help remind her how to make certain letters.)

She naturally enjoyed making the ones for the people in her class that she liked and that liked her back but I distinctly remember reading her one little boys name and she got quiet for a moment and said that this particular boy was often mean to her. After my initial gut reaction that wanted to smack the little bastard for being mean to my favorite person on the planet, she and I had a little chat about “loving our enemies” and how sometimes you really don’t know why some people act the way that they do.

Who knows, maybe he has a really sad life and his mommy and daddy don’t spend enough time with him. Maybe he doesn’t have any friends and that makes him sad or maybe he is just jealous of how bright and beautiful my little “ray of sunshine” is at heart. Neither of us knew for sure, but we did know that we felt bad for him and in the end she wanted to pick a very special card for him and seal it with an extra bright and special sticker to cheer him up! (because that’s the kind of amazingly loving and open hearted child she is!)

It was a wonderful reminder to me that sometimes just turning the other cheek may not be enough. Sometimes the greater good would be to go the extra mile and really repay meaness with kindess.   Of course that is easier to say than do because instinct often has us repay cruelty in kind but that just perpetuates the viciousness of the cycle.  Perhaps that is too lofty a goal to aspire to so what if we just started with sending a bit more love and compassion to folks who have not done us harm. Suddenly that seems easier right? Yup, it is all perspective.   

Read on for the letter that got me thinking today…

DEAR ABBY: I clearly remember my first Valentine’s Day. I was in first grade. A few days before, my mom asked how many kids were in my class, and we went to a store and bought large packages of valentines — one for every child in the class. The cards were all the same size and said, basically, the same thing.

When I arrived at school, each classmate had a small box on his or her desk. At some point during the day, I went around the room and gave each child a valentine. There was one for the quiet one in the back, the most popular girl in class, the prettiest and even the boys. This was long before society taught me that such a show of affection had to exclude people of the same gender as me. By the end of the day, everyone had a full box of valentines to take home.

One desk, one box … the love of a child.

As I grew older, society taught me to narrow my offering of affection, picking only those I chose to be special or worthy. Eventually, I was taught to limit my valentines to only one person. More time went on, and then a card was not enough. To show that really special person what she meant to you, you needed to send flowers, candy and jewelry.

Apparently, as we grew older it took more and more to fill those boxes. Now we absolutely could not give to more than one person. People hire detectives to make sure that the person isn’t filling anyone else’s. And if you had no one to send you anything, you were saddened by your big, empty box filled only with sadness and despair.

Today, I am taking back from society what it has taken from me. I’m counting how many people play a role in my life, and I am buying “virtual” packages of cards. I have one for every single one of you — man or woman, young or old, straight or gay, married or single. Each card is the same size, they all say the same thing — that I appreciate who you are and what you have to contribute to each other.

I invite each and every one to do the same, so that no box is empty and the shy ones, the pretty ones, the popular ones and those who are less so go home tonight with a full box of valentines.

One virtual desk, one virtual box, and the love of a child at heart. I wish you all a happy Valentine’s Day. — ERIC IN LOS ALAMITOS, CALIF.

DEAR ERIC: Your letter touched me — and I am sure that everyone who reads it wishes the same for you.

The Shibaricon website was newly updated today to include the current Instructor Roster! I am delighted to see so many of the presenters and fellow rope artists that I already know and adore listed and I scurried over to start making a list of the classes I want to attend when I am not busy teaching three of my own. Speaking of which this year I am teaching: Ecstatic Breath Workshop, Swiss Seat Suspension, and The Joys of Flying Low.  More info can be found on these classes on my presenter page.

One of a Kind Event -

I am very much looking forward to this event as always.. but this year especially.  The last couple of years I have attended and presented at a LOT of events including: Dark Odyssey Winter Fire & Summer Camp, Leather Retreat, Thunder in the Mountains, South East Leather Fest, Kinky Kollege, Sinsations in Leather, Folsom Fringe, Floating World, and Black Rose as well as numerous smaller local events. (Yeah I definitely get around).  Well, through it all I can honestly say that my absolute favorite event has always been and is still Shibaricon! 

Why you ask? It’s simple… I LOVE rope and I ADORE rope people!! Rope people are a different breed of kinkster and while they are as diverse as any group I have ever encountered I have often found common threads that attract me to them.  Rope lovers tend to be artists at heart which often draws them to this amazing art form.  I also find that rope lovers tend to “get it” when it comes to things like sharing erotic energy, and spiritual connection. 

Rope Community - I feel a sense of community among rope people that I don’t feel nearly as strongly anywhere else and I can truthfully say that I have met and grown to love many of my favorite scene people at Shibaricon.  Lee (formerly Bridget) Harrington connected and played at the first SC and I still vividly remember how hot and sexy that scene was for me. I also met my dear friends Lochai  and his adorable wife Janice at the first SC as well as Jimmi Tatu, Shevah, David and Chelah who I was thrilled to do my chandelier suspension with! She looked so lovely and I got many wonderful compliments on the work. :) 

I also have gotten to know Mark Yu who I love to bottom to because he is such a creative, and wicked but uniquely knowledgeable sadist. Oh and his partner Jeana is a doll baby! Oh My God so many others!  Dov   my birthday brother, (we share the same birthday and year, cool huh?), GrayDancer (author and infamous “Ropecast”er), Leon & Cherry, Mick & Dee Luvbight,( Taipan, Lady Gold, beautiful Punzel, David Lawrence (who has another book coming out soon that I can’t wait to order) and slave judy, Mark, Lani and Aleni of DV8 House, (love them all)!

Register Today! -

With the economy being as slow as it is these days money has gotten tight all over.  I have decided to cut way down on what events I will attend in 09 at least, in fact as of right now… Shibaricon is the only event I have comited to present at.  I have joked in the past that it is like the annual pilgrimage to Mecca for rope lovers but honestly for me it is more like the family reunion that I wouldn’t want to miss and look forward to year after year.  If you are considering attending Shibaricon and need someone to tell you it is worth it.. then consider this a rave endorsement and send in your registration.  I love meeting new family and I will see you there!!   

Shibaricon!

Two of my favorite indulgent pleasures are massage and soaking in jacuzzi tubs.  In fact, I have noticed that some of my favorite places I have ever stayed stick out in my mind based on what sort of bath tub or shower set up they had in the guest rooms and whether or not they had a masseuse on staff.  :)  And since this little blog is as much an on-line diary as anything else I have decided to write a bit about a two night stay in a truly stunning hot tub room .. complete with a spa package that I was treated to by one of my favorite playmates! 

I started the spa package with a 75 minute hot stone massage (my first) followed by a 50 minute swedish massage before retiring to my gorgeous room to slip into a deep full length jacuzzi tub for over an hour.  The combination was just out of this world!  

It was so good in fact that this evening I decided to treat myself to a special night of self pampering again.  So I filled that beautiful tub, added some Tahitian Orchid bubble bath, lit over a dozen tea lights, then I made myself a perfect cup of Harney’s Earl Grey tea, put Moodswings on the Ipod (”Horizontal” will probably go down as one of my all time favorite CDs) and I slipped into that fabulous tub to soak for awhile. 

I dearly love hot bubbly baths. Especially in tubs that are deep and long enough for me to float  a bit.  I find that deliciously relaxing.  And then I turned on the jets. <grin> Mmmm jacuzzi baths are fabulous inventions! <grin> Those sweet pulsing hot jets on sore, tight muscles and stiff necks and well other sensitive places like pulsing hot water too.  In fact, once I felt relaxed and yummy, I began to crave some less relaxing stimulation.  

So I popped out of the tub long enough to fetch my favorite curved glass toy. I laid back in the tub, slipped it inside and began to work my g-spot.  I got so turned on I actually had to get out of the tub again so that I didn’t drown or splash too much water around the place and then once I spread out on the warm sheets I added some vibration on my clit and really got excited!  ;)  I spent the next couple of hours in blissful self indulgence feeling perfectly spoiled and pampered until I finally slipped off to sleep around 2am! Talk about Sweet dreams!

So like wow … that was a hell of a last post.  This one is going to be considerably shorter.  I just wanted to say I had an amazing weekend.  My favorite little person spent the entire weekend with me (That’s 2 sleepovers in a row as she would say!) And we had an awesone time.  Sat morning I took her to ballet and I absolutely adore watching her run around on her tippy toes and then I dropped her off for a few hours to a friends house for a play date and so I could take care of a few errands.  Sat night was a low key movie night.  I threw the big screen up in the living room again and we watched Cinderella and Nemo on the giant 6 foot screen. 

Yesterday we got up bright and early and headed off to Hunter for the day.  It was her first ski trip ever and I don’t know which of us was most excited!  We snapped this pic of the ice formations on the way up.  I love big icicles!!

Once we got there, I got her the ”explorer kid’s lesson” from the place and she did really well for her first time!  I took a bunch of pics and was so proud of her!  While they kept her amused, I practiced on the greens for  a couple of hours and I think I am doing pretty well!  If nothing else I have fun with it and spending a lot less time on my butt in the snow than I used to.  This time I even took my Ipod out there so I could swish down the hill to my favorite tunes!  Mmmm! It was a beautiful day but I was damn tired by the end of it.  I was still recovering from that last really nasty cold and hauling all my gear and hers too was pretty tiring but it was totally worth it.  I just love to see that kid smile and have fun!

Ok I better get going.  I have a couple of appointments today that I am going to get up and ready for now and I will be chatting up at least one of my favoritre NiteFlirt boys up tonight. My little Tyler has been locked up for awhile and I know he is really itching to come out to play for a bit!   I’ll stop back soon!