Suzanne SxySadist’s Personal Blog

Ok so I said I decided not to post a pick but my friend Cecily Deville took this one on Sunday before we went to dinner and just sent me a link to it so I said what the fuck… I may as well toss is up here.  

The play happened Friday and the color has actually deepened and spread since then but the swelling has definitely gone down. The front is almost as pretty and do please remember that I LOVED every minute of being pushed this hard. My buddy Jim Duvall really did an incredible job of taking me where I needed to go but with very little damage. Yeah yeah I have some intense color but he barely broke the skin and none of this will be permanent which I really appreciate.

It was pretty incredible but I think I am good for awhile and my urge to bottom that heavilly has definitely been sated for the time being.

I had a really good weekend out in CA presenting for “Folsom Fringe 09” and attending the world famous street fair for several hours on Sunday and so here is a recap of thoughts and highlights.

Thursday my sweetie got me off the the airport in plenty of time and I just knew I was going to miss the hell out of him. I don’t do a lot of events “stag” any more. I really love being with my Brett. I love the service and support he gives me. I love his light hearted demeanor and his adorable smiling face. And I love the way we play together.   But the air to CA wasn’t in the budget for both of us so off I went on my own. 

Smooth trip; direct flight from JFK to San Jose CA.  Jet Blue is in my top 5 carriers for a few reasons. Got my bags together and went to the shuttle area and proceeded to spend at least an hour trying to get a reasonably affordable ride to the hotel. Ugh! But in the end M Sol sent me some rescuers that picked me up and brought me over. Yay! Checked in to the host hotel; The Domain - nice place. Dropped my bags and went straight to the bar. There were a bunch of folks I knew there and I met several others.

While there I hooked up Mark Yu and Cecily DeVille of The Jade Gatein Portland Oregon.  I have known Mark for about 6 years and am very fond of him. He has a vast wealth of knowledge about acupuncture, Chinese herbal medicine, pressure points, the way chi moves through the body and so much more and he knows and teaches people precisely how to use all of that knowledge to cause pain and suffering that can also be beneficial to the body.  I LOVE that and would highly recommend his classes to anyone.

I had called ahead of time as always to book some “needle time” with him and usually get several treatments throughout a weekend.  We went up to his room for the first which was the perfect nightcap to the first evening. 

Friday morning - still on NY time - woke up way too early.  Chilled in my room w/my Ipod, did some email, had breakfast buffet with Mick & Dee Luvbight.  God I love those two. Got some more needle time with MYu and went to a couple of classes. Jim Duvall and Sophia Sky did a nice class on “Non verbal Communication” which I know a fair bit about but love other people’s takes on familiar topics. And then I went to Mark DV8’s ”Advanced Floorwork” class and got to follow along on his wife, my friend Aleni as he did one of his signature ties on his “flygirl” Lani.  Wow that is a complex but beautiful tie! Poking around last night I found a gallery on Mick & Dee’s site where they tried it. Check this out:  The DV8 Hishi Takote

Anyway after that I did my Intention Connection class and there was a slight irritation as I discovered that they had misnamed the class in the book so people that didn’t read the description had a skewed view of what the class would be about - but the folks that came and stayed seemed to enjoy the class anyway. :)  So it’s all good.

There were definitely some organizational glitches for the event and if you were predisposed to be annoyed or pissed you would have had enough to be thoroughly miserable about but I was in my “happy go lucky - polly anna head space” and so I managed to keep my chin up and a smile on for most of the weekend.

I loved dinner times - Friday Night I went to the sushi house w/a group of really cool folks: Jim Duvall & Sophia Sky, Max and his guest,  Adrienne Evey, and Allena Gabosh of The Center for Sex Positive Culture. Great conversations, delicious sushi and excellent prices! Sat and Sunday I had delicious dinners with MYu and Cecily one night at a great little Thai place and one night at a place called the “Fish Market”.

Back to the really main event - playtime.  I met and bonded with Jim Duvall a couple of years ago and had a scene where he “beat the crap” out of me with “a big stick” and literally had bruises for at least a month afterwards. He is really damn good at it. He understands the way I use my breath to process pain and reads my body language fabulously so it was as if he could tell exactly how hard to hit me and when. It was amazing and wonderful and so cathartic for me, and I so needed that! He saved a spot in his dance card for me on Friday night and treated me to another very similar scene.  Wow! Holy shit and wow again!!  I screamed and cursed and laughed and cried and called him names and through it all he kept smiling his sexy “mean man” smile and hitting me with that thick chunk of bamboo. My thighs are completely black, blue, purple, and magenta, front and back front the curve of my ass to 3 inches above my knees and I will likely still have some evidence of this one for a month.  4 days after the fact .. I feel a bit sore but probably no where near as bad and most folks would assume from the look of it.  I considered posting a photo but decided against it for now but I will suffice it to say that it was an amazing release for me and I am really happy and relaxed right now.

Sat I went to Mark’s trampling class and learned a few new ways to use my feet and places to create sensation. I went to Aleni DV8’s “In’s Outs and Round abouts of CBT” (more on Aleni later) and I went to Jim Duvall’s “Rape and Abduction play” class which confirmed that he is a delisciously ”sick fuck” and wished for the first time that I had never met him before which may sound weird considering how much I loved playing with him the night before but anyone that was in the class would understand why I say that. ;) My ”Ecstatic Breathing” class followed and I had a nice turn out of folks that came to learn how to use their breath in different ways which I really love to teach.

Sat night .. I had the distinct honor of playing with Aleni DV8. She is a beautifully expressive and responsive bottom and it didn’t take long for her to get warmed up and wiggling sensually at the end of my favorite 4 foot signal whip! We had a delightful time together and when I returned her to her Master Mark DV8 at the end of the evening I thanked him again for the honour and trust he showed me.  I really enjoy knowing the DV8 clan who I met and usually see at Shibaricon.  I have wished a few times I could afford travel to Australia to visit them and sight see the “land down under.”  Maybe someday huh?

 By the time time Sunday rolled around I was feeling pretty tired.  Surprise huh?  I had to get my luggage out of my room and my friends Mark and Cecily let me store it in theirs, quick breakfast and onto the bus… 30 mins or so from San Jose to San Fran.  Chatted the whole time to a really lovely and sweet girl who goes by “OTK Blondie”.  Then I wandered around Folsom Street Fairfor hours, marvelling at the sights like hot naked gay twister, and the amazing costumes! Checking out the fabulous vendors, and although I did almost no shopping I made a nice little mental wish list. I also bumped into folks I know here and there and at one point my buddy Charly B offered to let me throw one of the great nylon whips he made at his lovely escort and next thing I know we ended up doing a scene for at least 30 mins right there in the street! She was totally fucking hot and sexy and I loved making her dance too!  What a day!

But my early afternoon my feet were really tired and decided to catch the first bus back to the hotel. Relaxed, had some sake, took a shower and enjoyed dinner with my friends and got a ride back to SJC airport with “Smiling Guy Mike”. (Huge thanks again for the shuttle rides!)  

Jet Blue did right by me again going home. Breezed through check in with no hassle even though my bag was a couple pounds over. <grin> I must be living right huh? I had fully intended on sleeping the whole way home but they offered the premium movie channels for free since the Direct TV was on the fritz and so I ended up zoning out to a cute little Sandra Bullock flick (I like her a lot) for the first 2 hours or so and then another adorable comedy with Eddie Murphy and a kid and well before I knew it I was almost home. 

I started thinking about the fact that I knew my Brett was going to be waiting for me there, I how much I missed him and couldn’t wait to see him to tell him all about my weekend and show him the aftermath of “Hurricane Jim”.  I ran to him and he kissed just like in the movies!  <grin> Then helped me get my bags and took me home, tucked me in and let me sleep while he unpacked my toys, did my laundry and picked up some groceries. When I woke up I spent a lazy day settling back in and later that night he made me fillet mignon and lobster for dinner and I fell asleep again watching an old British comedy with my sweetie.

Today I am taking my time catching up, checking in with some folks, still a bit sore but really happy.  I am so blessed and thank you for caring about me or being curious enough to read this. I wish you the best and will check back in here soon.

Whew! Really sweet weekend! “Adventures in Sexuality” by the “Columbus Ohio Perversion Excursion” or “AIS COPE” for short is a fairly small event but one that has definitely gotten kinky fun down to a science!

I am not even sure what to comment on first! The organizers Sir Barak & Brat Sheba are delightful hosts and their top notch staff and volunteer crew were really well organized and took care of everything!  The hotel was very nice! In fact one of the best parts was that we had an entire “chocolate wing” to ourselves that was accessible directly from the conference areas so you didn’t have to dress or pass through any hotel common areas to get back to your room at night after the play party! That was really delightful!

The meal package was delicious and well worth the cost. The only hotel downsides for me was that the pool was closed that weekend and there was no hot tea service available at the complimentary coffee bar and I REALLY LOVE my tea!

This actually worked out OK because it got me out of the hotel at least twice a day to walk across the street to Kroger’s supermarket to patronize their in house Starbucks.  And as it turns out I totally fell in love with Kroger’s! It is the prettiest damn supermarket I ever saw! I loved the decor (wooden end caps and panelling!) and all of the cute little employees looked so sweet in their white shirts and ties! Totally cute and definitely jail bait…  but I digress!

So uhh yeah.. we had a LOT of fun at this event!  Friday night I suspended and played with my sweetheart early in the evening. Later on that night he and I took turns throwing some signal whips at each other for a bit. Saturday during the day there was a full schedule of classes in 5 time slots but that was it for classes because there were none scheduled for Sunday.  I taught two: Binding the Jewels and Ecstatic Percussion Play. Both were well attended and a lot of fun.  He and I also went to two great classes together and then after dinner rested up just a bit and hit the dungeon. 

Our friend Boom asked if I would suspend the truly lovely lady accompanying him to the event. I discovered that it would be her first suspension and he wanted to make sure that she would be safe and have an enjoyable experience losing that “cherry”.  I was naturally honored and delighted!  I started off tying her in a face down, low to the ground tie but the pressure on her chest was a bit too much for her so I switched up and rigged her into a seated suspension that she found far more comfortable and umm stimulating. OK well maybe it was the energetic use of a battery operated vibe that contributed to that stimulation but I do know one things for sure .. we all had a hell of a good time! :) 

Later on that evening my darling Brett  leaned me up against an angled “spider web” that I covered with sheepskin and began to flog and cane me into ecstasy! Mmm he was really wonderful and I really needed that! He was reading me wonderfully and watching every move I made, giving me lighter and heavier strokes with perfect timing.  There was this one magical moment that really blew me away though. I was laying back into the sheepskin, arms outstretched and dancing in ecstasy and he knealt down before me on one knee as he lightly caned the front of my thighs and looked up into my eyes adoringly. 

LOL It was the most delicious mix of emotions and sensations .. I had such pride that my “sub” was looking so beautiful before me and yet that expression adoration humbles me every time I see it in his eyes.  And it was deliciously contradictory for him to be caning his Mistress from his knees,(although in that moment … that was the absolute BEST way he could have served me!) I was totally turned on and juiced and in fact at one point I grabbed him by his shirt spun him up and back against the sheep and then hooked my feet into the chains scaling the “wall” until I was practically sitting on him. Maybe you had to be there.. but trust me when I say it was hot! In fact I got several comments from folks who told me they loved watching us play which of course is always nice to hear! 

Sunday morning we slept in and packed up at leisure. It was actually nice to be able to do that because, well we had a 10 hour drive home and as much fun as it is to get away sometimes… I really like curling up with my sweetheart in our own bed at night.

Anyway .. I had a really wonderful time and I would highly recommend any event sponsored by COPE, in fact the next one they are doing is called “Winter Wickedness” and will be held in early Feb.  I am hoping to check it out but winter travel can be a bitch so we’ll see! OK that’s enough for tonight.. I’ll check back soon!

I had a wonderful Labor Day weekend! Friday I got to spend about 7 hours playing with my favorite 6 year old.  It was a beautiful day so we packed a little picnic and went to “Pirate Park” where we ran around, climbed on stuff, played on the swings, threw rocks into the pond and in general had a blast. Afterward we came back to my place and she turned me on to her favorite new show; “I Carly”. It seems like just last week she was falling in love with Dora the Explorer” and the Disney Princess’.  They grow so fast huh?

I was pretty wound up after I dropped her off and I hadn’t made plans for the evening since Brett wasn’t coming in Friday night but rather decided to come up Saturday morning instead, so I decided to do one of my midnight runs to Walmart. I sometimes like just wandering around looking at stuff and well these days I do a fair bit of label comparison in the grocery aisles. It seems I have picked up an admirer while doing so because  the last couple of times I was shopping this really handsome, muscular and oh so charming  hunk of black man has flirted with me, and oh god but he has a dazzling smile! Well I guess I flirted back a bit and introduced myself enough to find out his name is Ricky and he claims to be 48 years old and single.  It occurred to me that I think he would look fabulous in rope so I handed him a “Shibari Lover” card and told him he should peek at my website.

Wow I guess I really am a pervert if I see an attractive person and immediately picture them not just naked but usually naked in rope huh? Oh well, I guess we’ll see if I hear from him or if he flirts with me when I go there next. I finished the evening off with a 2 mile walk around the neighborhood and then curled up to wait for my sweetheart to arrive.

We spent most of Saturday at home taking care of projects around the house and running errands but we did clear some really sweet time Saturday afternoon for an intensely energetic bit of mostly vanilla sex. Yes, yes hell I am not ashamed to admit it… I LOVE good old fashioned  vanilla sex now and then! Maybe I sometimes even appreciate it more because so much of my life revolves around kink that it is almost a welcome change of pace to enjoy those sweetly vanilla “normal” times like playing with a beloved child at a park or going to a movie at the mall or even simply looking deeply into the eyes of someone you love while making love to them and NOT torturing him until he screams while you do it! (Although that’s pretty nice too!) 

We had a really nice lunch at the “Olive Garden” where my niece works and on the way back we stopped off to visit my buddy “Motorcycle  Mike” and his slave / girlfriend Sheri for a few minutes. It was a short but sweet visit and while we were there Mike invited us out onto his “yacht” the next day.  He has a nice lil fishing / speed boat that can comfortably accommodate four people and I haven’t had a chance to get out on the boat with him at all this summer so Brett and I jumped at the opportunity for some fun and sun on the Hudson.  

Sunday morning when I opened my eyes the first thing I saw was a beautiful boquet of flowers on my night stand.  That sweet guy of mine had gone out to get me some more cream for my tea and brought back flowers as well but I didn’t have a lot of time to admire them. We had to get ready for go meet Mike & Sheri.  

It was a wonderful day on the river! The weather was perfect, mostly sunny and warm but not too hot. Mike took us to a great spot and he, Brett and I cast some lines into the water using worms and raw chunks of chicken breast for bait and  we all get hits! I caught first fish but it was just a little perch so I tossed it back. Mostly we we getting small to medium size catfish and then Mike caught a really good size cat and offered to let Brett and I keep it! Yum! 

We also caught like a half a dozen or more good size frigging eels! Ughh! I had absolutely no idea how truly nasty and slimy those things are or what a pain in the ass it is the try to get the hooks back out of their mouths so you can toss them back! Ewww! Gross! Those nasty suckers would try wrapping around your arm as you held on to them and tried to work the hook back out and then they would be sliding down through your hand pulling the hook dangerously close to your damn thumb! That was definitely an adventure I could have lived without and since I neither Brett nor I had ever cooked an eel before we decided to keep tossing them back for now! 

We fished for several hours then cruised up to Athens NY and ate a really nice late lunch early dinner at a lovely little cafe on the river there. Then we fished a little more and headed back in as the sun began to set.  We got home, cleaned the fish, hit the shower and crashed almost immediately. Whew what a day!

Monday we relaxed a bit and then later on worked out together at Mike’s and then Brett cooked that catfish Cajun style! It was really delicious!

We also and I began thinking about my packing lists for AIS COPE next weekend! Yayy! I am doing two classes; “Binding the Jewels” which is a hands on class about cock and ball bondage (Mmm a favorite topic!) and “Learning to Fly - Ecstatic Percussion play” where we cover a few of the things I think help to make a scene more special for both parties like a shared intention and energetic connection and then give them an introduction to conscious breath work and how that can help transform pain. I am also planning to attend a few classes that sound really interesting to me and have some fun in the dungeon! Woohoo!

OK that’s enough writing for one day … I need to more around a bit.  Hope you like the pics!! Talk soon!

A friend of mine sent this to me not long ago and it left quite an impression and an urge to want to find out the answers. I could probably figure out some of the math problems (which is surprising for me to say since I always hated math) but I am really curious about some of the others especially the grammar questions.  I found out that if you do a google search, you’ll find some sites where people (attempt) to answer these test questions\, so maybe one day when I have more time I will research and fill it out.

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Remember when grandparents and great-grandparents stated that they only had an 8th grade education? Well, check this out. Could any of us have passed the 8th grade in 1895?

This is the eighth-grade final exam from 1895 in Salina , Kansas , USA . It was taken from the original document on file at the Smokey Valley Genealogical Society and Library in Salina , and reprinted by the Salina Journal.

8th Grade Final Exam: Salina , KS - 1895

Grammar (Time, one hour)
1. Give nine rules for the use of capital letters.
     Best answer I found - http://owl.english.purdue.edu/owl/resource/592/01/
2. Name the parts of speech and define those that have no modifications.
3. Define verse, stanza and paragraph
4. What are the principal parts of a verb? Give principal parts of ‘lie,”play,’ and ‘run.’
5. Define case; illustrate each case.
6 What is punctuation? Give rules for principal marks of punctuation.
7 - 10. Write a composition of about 150 words and show therein that you understand the practical use of the rules of grammar.

Arithmetic (Time,1 hour 15 minutes)
1. Name and define the Fundamental Rules of Arithmetic.
2. A wagon box is 2 ft. Deep, 10 feet long, and 3 ft. Wide. How many bushels of wheat will it hold?
3. If a load of wheat weighs 3,942 lbs., what is it worth at 50cts/bushel, deducting 1,050 lbs. For tare?
4. District No 33 has a valuation of $35,000.. What is the necessary levy to carry on a school seven months at $50 per month, and have $104 for incidentals?
5. Find the cost of 6,720 lbs. Coal at $6.00 per ton.
6. Find the interest of $512.60 for 8 months and 18 days at 7 percent.
7. What is the cost of 40 boards 12 inches wide and 16 ft.. Long at $20 per metre?
8. Find bank discount on $300 for 90 days (no grace) at 10 percent.
9. What is the cost of a square farm at $15 per acre, the distance of which is 640 rods?
10. Write a Bank Check, a Promissory Note, and a Receipt

U.S. History (Time, 45 minutes)
1. Give the epochs into which U.S. History is divided
2. Give an account of the discovery of America by Columbus
3. Relate the causes and results of the Revolutionary War.
4. Show the territorial growth of the United States
5. Tell what you can of the history of Kansas
6. Describe three of the most prominent battles of the Rebellion.
7. Who were the following: Morse, Whitney, Fulton , Bell , Lincoln , Penn, and Howe?
8. Name events connected with the following dates: 1607, 1620, 1800, 1849, 1865.

Orthography (Time, one hour)
[Do we even know what this is??]
1. What is meant by the following: alphabet, phonetic, orthography, etymology, syllabication
2. What are elementary sounds? How classified?
3. What are the following, and give examples of each: trigraph, subvocals, diphthong, cognate letters, linguals
4. Give four substitutes for caret ‘u.’ (HUH?)
5. Give two rules for spelling words with final ‘e.’ Name two exceptions under each rule.
6. Give two uses of silent letters in spelling. Illustrate each.
7. Define the following prefixes and use in connection with a word: bi, dis-mis, pre, semi, post, non, inter, mono, sup.
8. Mark diacritically and divide into syllables the following, and name the sign that indicates the sound: card, ball, mercy, sir, odd, cell, rise, blood, fare, last.
9. Use the following correctly in sentences: cite, site, sight, fane, fain, feign, vane , vain, vein, raze, raise, rays.
10. Write 10 words frequently mispronounced and indicate pronunciation by use of diacritical marks
and by syllabication.

Geography (Time, one hour)
1 What is climate? Upon what does climate depend?
2. How do you account for the extremes of climate in Kansas ?
3. Of what use are rivers? Of what use is the ocean?
4. Describe the mountains of North America
5. Name and describe the following: Monrovia , Odessa , Denver , Manitoba , Hecla , Yukon , St. Helena, Juan Fernandez, Aspinwall and Orinoco
6. Name and locate the principal trade centers of the U.S. Name all the republics of Europe and give the capital of each.
8. Why is the Atlantic Coast colder than the Pacific in the same latitude?
9. Describe the process by which the water of the ocean returns to the sources of rivers.
10. Describe the movements of the earth. Give the inclination of the earth.

Notice that the exam took FIVE HOURS to complete!
Gives the saying ‘he only had an 8th grade education’ a whole new meaning, doesn’t it?!

So like millions of other Americans, I am doing my best to watch my weight and have been off dieting for as long as I can remember. Truth be told, I have always carried a little more padding than I wish but when I quit smoking over a year and a half ago my weight spiked to an all time high and I was really unhappy about it. I am pretty good with short term self discipline, but one thing I know about myself is that I really need to see and or feel results to give me the incentive & strength to stick something out (especially if it involves self denial of some sort).

I have tried Atkins and but missed certain foods way too much to stay with that and my cholesterol rose on that one. I was not really good at showing up for meetings or those humiliating weigh ins at “Weight Watchers” and trying to remember convert all my meals to “points” was really annoying, so I didn’t stick that out for long at all. I finally decided to really focus on working out far more regularly while giving Nutri System a go (thanks to the help of a good friend) and I am pretty proud and pleased to say that in spite of not sticking to it religiously because I still like to eat out and indulge certain cravings now & then, I am down about 17 lbs since June! That puts me at just about half way between where I started and my “ideal” weight!

When I started out just walking at a moderate pace on the treadmill would leave me pretty gaspy and breathless but I am now doing at least a mile 3 times a week and even running short distances. Woohoo! At the same time, I have been building some muscle by hitting my buddy Mike’s home gym. He’s got a lot of great stuff there; a Weider home gym, a Total Gym, treadmill, Ab Lounge, Lateral thigh trainer and at least one other piece of equipment as well as the pool that I will be sorry to see closed up for the winter.
 
I have also picked up the entire set of “Eat This Not That” by David Zinczenko and Matt Goulding and have found them to be really helpful! The fabulous thing about these books is that you can still eat foods that you love! You don’t have to give up anything or feel like you are denying yourself. All you need to do is make simple swaps and smarter choices and you can lose weight! (For a sample of “Eat This Not That” wisdon, check out this article on “The Best and Wosrt Pizzas in America.”

I keep my copy of the “Supermarket Guide” and the yellow “Restaurant Guide” in my car so they are handy on the road and when I go shopping. Bottom line… if you or someone you love is trying to lose a few pounds and not feel miserable about it .. check out these books and use them! I think you’ll be glad you did!