Suzanne SxySadist’s NiteFlirt Blog

It has been a number of years since I have done a photo shoot with anyone but this week Monday a fabulous photographer named Henry Porter came by and we shot several 100 pics which he distilled down to the 140 or so that he sent me in a zip file this morning. I am totally thrilled with a LOT of them and that just made my day!

To be honest I wasn’t sure I was going to like what I saw. I am not getting any younger as is evidenced by more and more wrinkles and “smile lines” and although I have been working really hard to lose the weight I gained after quiting smoking 19 months ago, I am still not happy with my current weight. (But then how many women ever REALLY are?)

But I am really excited about these shots and have started posting them to my website and a couple of my public profiles. Here is one of my favorites as well as a link to a gallery of two dozen more.  Gallery Link

I am not sure I want to take down the shots of me already on the site but not because I want to mislead anyone into thinking I am younger / thinner or anything like that .. the reasons are actually more sentimental.  The vast majority of the photos currently on my website were take by my former partner Nelson who went by the name “Neil Shadow” as a photographer and they hold a very special place in my heart especially since he passed away this month last year. (Wow, I can’t believe he has been gone a year now!)

Anyway… I guess for right now I will find a way to work in enough of the newest ones so I can’t be accused of “false advertising” (lol) while preserving enough of the ones that make my sentimental heart happy. I hope that is OK with folks and that you enjoy the new photos! Love &  whips to all!

OMG I had the sexiest frigging call today on NiteFlirt! This guy named Brian out of Texas called me to talk about his real life cuckold relationship with his girlfriend of 12 years. It seems this total young hottie gal named Shawn lives with him, has him pay for everything including college for her while she brings home and fucks anyone she wants, sometimes right in front of him! How frigging hot it that??

He went into great detail about how the relationship started and then slowly evolved over the years and I was totally enjoying hearing how she transformed this sweet shy sounding guy into a total cocksucking wussy boy that craves not only cleaning her well fucked pussy but sucking cock for her amusement and her friend Amy as well.  I can usually smell someone that is just stringing out elaborate fantasies but this guy REALLY sounds like he lives this as a lifestyle and just doesn’t get to talk about it with folks that would understand and share his kink very often. 

I actually loved every juicy detail and even shared one of my favorite fantasies with him of bringing a cuck boy to my favorite gay bar. Picture this: I walk into a gay leather bar with a sweet little white boy on a leash and collar.  I take a seat on a bar stool where I can see lots of hot sexy leather boys looking at me and wondering what the hell a leather clad dominatrix is doing there with a sub on a string.  Then I have the boy kneel in front of me between my legs blindfolded but with his face facing away from me and the back of his head nestled against my crotch, right up against my clit specifically. I order him to open his mouth invitingly and wait. I love to imagine that a sexy leather clad man will decide to take me up on the offer.. step right up to us, unzip his fly and slide his hot hard cock into the boy’s open mouth. Mmm I love to imagine I could feel this sexy man pumping his cock rythmically in and out of the boy’s throat as the boy’s head bumps and grinds against my clit over and over and I look into the eyes of this sexy stranger that is getting sucked off inches away from me until he simply blows his load right down the boy’s throat.. pulls out, zips up, tips his hat and walks away.

Mmm yeah .. sweet.  That one is a gaurenteed orgasm.  In fact I had a couple of multiples and one whopper for a total of 4 or so over the course of this call.  Somedays I REALLY love my work!

Happy summer everyone! Now that the warmer weather is upon us I have been feeling friskier than usual and have decided it is time to see about enticing some more folks out to play professionally and otherwise. Here are a few of my current thoughts and offerings:

Rope Club Gathering - Last month I held a small gathering (10 people or so) of folks interested in erotic rope bondage. My hope is to offer this on an on-going (monthly) basis so that those interested in improving their rope bondage skills can get together to practice, share tips and tricks, and in general spend time with other bondage enthusiasts. The next one will be held on June 21st from 1 - 430p or so. There is no charge for this event but you are welcome to bring a snack or beverage to share for the break (fruit, cookies etc). Couples and singles are welcome but I cannot gaurentee that singles will be partnered up (let alone with a preferred gender) . This not intended to be a dating service, or play party. If interested drop me a note to Mistress@SxySadist.com

Special Deal for Rope Sluts - Have I mentioned that I like rope bondage? Yeah, I know that is probably a news flash for ya’ll because I am so shy about talking about how much I love to tie up people. I could absolutely just spend hours tying people into beautiful, decorative and intricate bondage rope dresses and harnesses, experimenting with new suspension positions, or playing with predicament and torturous ties and seeing how long it takes for you to beg for mercy.

However good rope bottoms can be hard to find in the Hudson Valley and rope sessions can and should take a long time (if you do them right anyway) and paying for services by the hour get’s expensive so I have a special offer for my fellow rope enthusiasts - Book one hour - get one free! Yes, that’s right… if you love to be tied up (and are OK with me taking some pictures of my rope work) then this is the deal for you! Drop me a note and tell me you say the Rope Bunny Offer… and let’s set it up!

Beat the Heat Sale! - I have decided to extend my $100.00 off on a 2 hour session offer into the month of June and possibly July to help some of you who are still feeling the effects of our sluggish economy. So from now until at least the end of June a 2 hour session will only cost you $350.00 (rather than $450.00).

Some restrictions apply - (really fast talking commercial voice) Must mention this ad at the time of booking. Must be booked in advance during regular business hours at my home location only. Excludes other discounts, medical sessions, blah blah … blah blah blah) Just email me and let’s have some fun!

Charity Raffle - I really enjoy helping those who are less fortunate or in need and generally contribute money to various charities through out the year. I am especially fond of children’s charities: The Smile Train, Make a Wish, Cystic Fibrosis, St Jude’s etc. Unfortunately I have had less funds to do so recently but one of my favroite playmates came up with a really cool idea that I really like - a charity raffle! Here’s the gist: I buy a roll of raffle tickets and offer them to people interested in either live sessions or private lessons at like $10.00 each or 3 for $25.00. Once I sell $250.00 worth I throw the tickets into a hat (or sexy stilleto heel) and draw the name of a lucky winner.

I would love it if the idea takes off and I can do it like every other month but I know that every little bit helps so even once a year would be a great start! If interested in taking a chance on winning a full one hour session for ONLY $10.00 and helping me to do a really good deed - drop me a note!

Ok that should do it for today. I have a few other events in the works and will be updating my travel schedule shortly. Stay cool and stay tuned!

Greetings Mistress Suzanne.
Thank You so much for allowing me to “relieve my tensions” this weekend. i just about hit the celling when i finally came!! It had been building up for over a week, and with all that You have had me doing, it truly was building up. i tried to force myself to eat my cum but as usual i whinnied out after i came. Your new idea of a chastity devise has me terrified and hard at the same time. If You required my to eat it, i will for You. i have consumed about a dozen ounces of pre-cum and think i am ready to take the “whole” load for You.

Thank You for your time, consideration and training

Yours always, slave sissy pants.

April 20th  Update:  Sissy Pants and I both had a busy week or two but the little slut touched base with me this week and sent me this video of himself wanking off and licking his pre cum off of his slutty fingers.  What a slut!  I told him I plan to make him eat a whole load on cam for me one night soon because he has never done that yet!  Hmm  something to look forward to eh?  In the meantime check out his wank video in the crothcless panties that I love so much!  Sissy Pants Wankin’

I started this article last year and dropped it into a draft folder where it was forgotten for quite some time. I came across it this week and decided to dust it off and throw it out here. I welcome comments on it.)

Speaking of rope … a while back when I christened my new batch of flax from Madame Butterfly on “slave t” I alluded briefly to some rope characteristics and how they sometimes contribute to my rope selection for a scene. This is not something I have ever bothered to delve deeply into in the bondage classes that I teach, mainly because I think that a lot of my views here are highly subjective. What works for me in a given scenario may not work for the next person, or even for me again on a different day, with someone else, if the wind doesn’t blow just right.

I guess, what I am trying to say is that there is no exact science or step by step recipe to the alchemy of a great rope scene that will work every single time in any given scenario, and honestly, would anyone really want that? Isn’t a bit of fiery and passionate unpredictability part of what makes a sexual encounter hot? If getting laid ever became nothing but a paint by the numbers exercise, I would hope the human race would finally finish itself off.

However, I do realize that some general guidelines that I use in selecting rope could still prove to be useful insight for someone who may be new enough to not have formed opinions about such things, so I hope this article will be helpful to some folks and that it is not purely mental masturbation. (Not that I have anything against masturbation, mental or otherwise!)

Though I do not believe I have ever been known for delivering clear concise essays especially when the topic at hand drifts into the realm of “woo woo” (which is a catch all phrase I use for anything having to do with energetic connection and other intangibles that have to be felt rather than described in concrete terms), I will do my best to stay on topic and keep this as simple and direct yet thorough as possible. Please keep in mind that everything I am about to say is entirely my opinion and as such your mileage may vary.

Rope Slut - I am definitely a Rope Slut and I am also a compulsive shopper so at this point I own a HELL of a lot of rope from a wide variety of sources. Although I do not NEED any more rope, I always enjoy checking out new rope and vendors even if only from the standpoint of what uniqueness it may add to an experience.

Personally, as a top or a bottom, the more my senses are fully engaged in an experience, generally the fuller and often more satisfying that experience will be. I believe that a creative top can use different types of rope to induce specific effects in a scene similar to an artist using color to paint or a composer uses different instruments in a piece of music. Let’s think about the various senses and how they can be affected by various rope characteristics:

Look–When I consider how rope bondage looks, I see it as having at least two distinct and separate layers.

First, there is the look of the actual tie. Things to consider are: how neatly the bands are laid against each other, do rope twist or cross each other, does the tie snugly grip the body or do the bands shift around loosely on the skin, are the ends left hanging, bunched up and shoved away or meticulously tied off? Is the over all effect symmetrical? Does it complement the individual’s physique, etc?

But there is there is also the look of the actual rope itself to consider. Each material (hemp, flax, jute, silk, cotton, nylon etc) has its own unique appearance and then there are the construction whether it be braided or twisted, thickness and color to consider as well. I will get into these aspects separately in a moment.

Honestly there are times when the visual appearance of the bondage is more important to me than others. If I am doing a photo shoot, I naturally want the rope itself as well as the tie I am creating to be neat and pretty, but there are times when the intention of the scene is less about the visual and more focused on other things, like the energy exchange, the dynamics and sensations we are sharing, and how damn horny we are getting, so at those times my ties tend to be a bit faster, messier or “dirtier”.

I personally often find “messy ties” to have a greater “sex appeal” than perfectly executed and meticulous ties on bored to death or otherwise disengaged models. There is something really hot for me about the urgency of a “dirty and fast tie”, although my partner Brett reminded me that a slow meticulous tie executed with delicious sexual chemistry and a delightful teasing build up can be pretty damn hot too. However you prefer it, the bottom line for me is that the real juice is in the intention and the energy of the scene and its participants not just in the visual aspects of the rope work.

To illustrate this, these days when I am doing full or partial suspension bondage with my lover in our personal play, I often use a combination of silk for comfort and hemp for strength, even though the ropes do not actually look that great together. At these times, I care more about what am trying to accomplish than I do about how the bondage looks, and I find that using the silk for chest wraps under the arms and then adding a band of hemp over the arms gives me the strength I need while keeping him as comfortable as possible and able to stay in the tie even under other heavy physical duress (translated to: while I beat him with a really big stick).

When I am focusing on the visual aspects of a tie for a photo shoot (as opposed to a scene) I will begin by making sure my ropes match and if I decide to use hemp for example I will use only hemp that visually matches and not different colors, thicknesses, and textures. I will also pay much closer attention to the symmetry and other visual aspects of the tie like deciding how many wraps it will take to create a band on the body so that it looks properly proportioned.

As for the use of color, I enjoy using brightly colored rope in certain situations for various reasons: to match a models skin tone, hair, accent clothing, create dramatic effects etc, but I more often than not prefer natural colored rope. First off I am a bit of a perfectionist and I hate that most dying processes do not color the rope all the way to the core. <bleh>

Furthermore, I feel there is something intrinsically and transparently beautiful about natural fiber on naked flesh. I love finding and appreciating beauty its simplest and purest form whenever possible these days. Even natural ropes come in a variety of shades from snow white bamboo, off white creamy silk, jutes that lean toward golden wheat like colors and the hemp I have tends to be a nice neutral tan which works well on most skin tones for me.

In addition to the color of the rope another thing I tend to notice is how well the ropes’ finish catches light. Some of the smoother textures tend to reflect light better than others. For example, most nylons have pretty high shine and some of the softer “grassy” ropes have a lovely warm sheen to them. Those of us who really appreciate beautiful rope photography will want to pay special attention to this quality as it can make a big difference in the photos.

Feel – Texture tends to be very important to me. When I touch the rope with my hands I am naturally feeling the texture of it as I glide it through my hands and over my fingers because I want to know how it is going to feel when I drag it across the bottom’s flesh. But, I also pay attention to a few others things such as the “burn speed” which is the amount of friction the rope creates as it drags across the skin. Many people are surprised to find that nylon rope which can feel smooth to the touch actually gets hotter faster than most natural fibered ropes such as cotton, hemp, jute or silk and thus is said to have a lower burn speed.

I also am often aware of the temperature of the rope as it goes onto my body. Not necessarily temperature as in was it stored in a warm or cold room or not (although that is naturally a factor as well because I truly dislike being cold) but I tend to find smoother textures often feel cooler than coarser ones even if stored in the same location and some materials seem to warm to the body quicker than others. For example, I almost always find braided nylon ropes to feel cooler than most twisted hemp and silk usually feels the warmest of all in my rope basket.

Another important factor I will include here (although these are more functional characteristics than an aesthetic feature) is how much stretch and compression the rope has. If I am doing a full or partial suspension I need to know whether the ropes are going to stay where I place them or stretch and shift more than will be comfortable or safe. A bit of stretch can be very desirable under certain circumstances and not good at all for others. I am especially fond of Madame Butterfly’s silk in this regard because the silk stretches enough to “breathe” with the bottom which can be very handy for some situations, & gentler intentions but it is not generally suitable to use for the main support lines in a suspension.

I am a reasonable enough sadist to understand that if I use rope that a sub won’t tear themselves to bits struggling in, I can keep them tied up longer tormenting them in other deliciously cruel and devious ways. As mentioned earlier, my Brett has lasted much longer in full and partial suspensions when I use the silk for the base wraps AND I have even been able to suspend him day after day without him feeling overly tender from the rope abrasions and contusions. I also adore the silk for sensual bedroom bondage when I want to be able to struggle or pull comfortably against the rope.

Part of its charm for me is that silk allows for a great deal of compression. The best way I can describe what I mean by compression is for me to have you imagine you have two fairly bony places tied together with a cinch between them and a bit of weight on the area. A dense rope that won’t compress will dig deeper into the flesh and cause more discomfort under this circumstance than one that has a lot of compressibility and give to it. For times when I am tying bony areas in close proximity and I want to insure either more comfort or less marks I will grab either a very smooth soft nylon or the soft spongy raw silk.

There are also days and instances when I crave the scratchier, coarser feel of some of the rougher grasses, but not often. I have some brand new jute for example that I bought from the Monk over a year ago and have only used once or twice because it is just so rough on the skin. Yes, I know that if I used it more often it would begin to soften but there in is one of life’s sweet ironies that it won’t get soft enough to use until you use it a lot so I tend to leave it in the basket and grab something that is far more usable now!

Smell – The sense of smell is absolutely connected to sexual response on a primal level and many bottoms get turned on just smelling certain kinds of rope. Each type of material has its own unique fragrance and can elicit different responses. In particular I love the natural scents of hemp, flax and silk. I am not overly wild about chemical or petroleum scented ropes.

I tend to tell the story in my bondage class that the smell of natural rope is hard wired to sex for me because my first orgasm as a kid was climbing the thick ropes in gym class! (I was very good at rope climbing). On the other hand, I find the smell of silk to be very comforting to me because I associate that scent with my mother who went through a phase of wearing raw silks shirts that I used to borrow fairly often. The point is, because of the place it gets stored in your brain, scents can be one of the easiest senses to exploit and one of the longest lasting associations to make.

Taste – Yes even taste can come into play in particular if you have a tendency to play with rope gags. Some ropes swell more than others when wet which you may want to consider as well if you want to make sure the submissive can still breathe freely.

While here it bears mentioning that some people have allergies to the natural fibers of hemp or jute and if in doubt it would be good to check before shoving a big wad of it into their mouth. For more info on the use of gags & blindfolds I have another essay elsewhere on the blog: Blindfolds & Gags 101 and then some!

Sound –Ok, since rope all by itself tends to be pretty quiet, this one is not a major player for me but it the truth is when a submissive is blindfolded all of their other senses become heightened and if I close my eyes right now I can hear in my head the whispering friction sound of rope whooshing or whirring across itself, the snap of it slapping across my flesh, the ground or the rig (which also relates to feel) and the creaking sound it can make when you are suspended.

Ok that is about all I have to say at the moment .. if I think of anything else to add I will edit it in later.

Yours in rope .. Suze