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What’s new in June?

by admin on Jun.03, 2009, under Blog Entries & Musings

freebqHappy summer everyone! Now that the warmer weather is upon us I have been feeling friskier than usual and have decided it is time to see about enticing some more folks out to play professionally and otherwise. Here are a few of my current thoughts and offerings:

Rope Club Gathering - Last month I held a small gathering (10 people or so) of folks interested in erotic rope bondage. My hope is to offer this on an on-going (monthly) basis so that those interested in improving their rope bondage skills can get together to practice, share tips and tricks, and in general spend time with other bondage enthusiasts. The next one will be held on June 21st from 1 - 430p or so. There is no charge for this event but you are welcome to bring a snack or beverage to share for the break (fruit, cookies etc). Couples and singles are welcome but I cannot gaurentee that singles will be partnered up (let alone with a preferred gender) . This not intended to be a dating service, or play party. If interested drop me a note to Mistress@SxySadist.com

Special Deal for Rope Sluts - Have I mentioned that I like rope bondage? Yeah, I know that is probably a news flash for ya’ll because I am so shy about talking about how much I love to tie up people. :D I could absolutely just spend hours tying people into beautiful, decorative and intricate bondage rope dresses and harnesses, experimenting with new suspension positions, or playing with predicament and torturous ties and seeing how long it takes for you to beg for mercy.

However good rope bottoms can be hard to find in the Hudson Valley and rope sessions can and should take a long time (if you do them right anyway) and paying for services by the hour get’s expensive so I have a special offer for my fellow rope enthusiasts - Book one hour - get one free! Yes, that’s right… if you love to be tied up (and are OK with me taking some pictures of my rope work) then this is the deal for you! Drop me a note and tell me you say the Rope Bunny Offer… and let’s set it up!

moneyBeat the Heat Sale! - I have decided to extend my $100.00 off on a 2 hour session offer into the month of June and possibly July to help some of you who are still feeling the effects of our sluggish economy. So from now until at least the end of June a 2 hour session will only cost you $350.00 (rather than $450.00).

Some restrictions apply - (really fast talking commercial voice) Must mention this ad at the time of booking. Must be booked in advance during regular business hours at my home location only. Excludes other discounts, medical sessions, blah blah … blah blah blah) Just email me and let’s have some fun! :)

ticketCharity Raffle - I really enjoy helping those who are less fortunate or in need and generally contribute money to various charities through out the year. I am especially fond of children’s charities: The Smile Train, Make a Wish, Cystic Fibrosis, St Jude’s etc. Unfortunately I have had less funds to do so recently but one of my favroite playmates came up with a really cool idea that I really like - a charity raffle! Here’s the gist: I buy a roll of raffle tickets and offer them to people interested in either live sessions or private lessons at like $10.00 each or 3 for $25.00. Once I sell $250.00 worth I throw the tickets into a hat (or sexy stilleto heel) and draw the name of a lucky winner.

I would love it if the idea takes off and I can do it like every other month but I know that every little bit helps so even once a year would be a great start! If interested in taking a chance on winning a full one hour session for ONLY $10.00 and helping me to do a really good deed - drop me a note!

Ok that should do it for today. I have a few other events in the works and will be updating my travel schedule shortly. Stay cool and stay tuned!

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Rope Selection Essay

by admin on Apr.08, 2009, under Blog Entries & Musings, Tutorials & Articles

Suzanne SxySadist I started this article last year and dropped it into a draft folder where it was forgotten for quite some time. I came across it this week and decided to dust it off and throw it out here. I welcome comments on it.)

Speaking of rope … a while back when I christened my new batch of flax from Madame Butterfly on “slave t” I alluded briefly to some rope characteristics and how they sometimes contribute to my rope selection for a scene. This is not something I have ever bothered to delve deeply into in the bondage classes that I teach, mainly because I think that a lot of my views here are highly subjective. What works for me in a given scenario may not work for the next person, or even for me again on a different day, with someone else, if the wind doesn’t blow just right.

I guess, what I am trying to say is that there is no exact science or step by step recipe to the alchemy of a great rope scene that will work every single time in any given scenario, and honestly, would anyone really want that? Isn’t a bit of fiery and passionate unpredictability part of what makes a sexual encounter hot? If getting laid ever became nothing but a paint by the numbers exercise, I would hope the human race would finally finish itself off.

However, I do realize that some general guidelines that I use in selecting rope could still prove to be useful insight for someone who may be new enough to not have formed opinions about such things, so I hope this article will be helpful to some folks and that it is not purely mental masturbation. (Not that I have anything against masturbation, mental or otherwise!) :)

Though I do not believe I have ever been known for delivering clear concise essays especially when the topic at hand drifts into the realm of “woo woo” (which is a catch all phrase I use for anything having to do with energetic connection and other intangibles that have to be felt rather than described in concrete terms), I will do my best to stay on topic and keep this as simple and direct yet thorough as possible. Please keep in mind that everything I am about to say is entirely my opinion and as such your mileage may vary.

Rope Slut - I am definitely a Rope Slut and I am also a compulsive shopper so at this point I own a HELL of a lot of rope from a wide variety of sources. Although I do not NEED any more rope, I always enjoy checking out new rope and vendors even if only from the standpoint of what uniqueness it may add to an experience.

Personally, as a top or a bottom, the more my senses are fully engaged in an experience, generally the fuller and often more satisfying that experience will be. I believe that a creative top can use different types of rope to induce specific effects in a scene similar to an artist using color to paint or a composer uses different instruments in a piece of music. Let’s think about the various senses and how they can be affected by various rope characteristics:

A sampling of rope. Look–When I consider how rope bondage looks, I see it as having at least two distinct and separate layers.

First, there is the look of the actual tie. Things to consider are: how neatly the bands are laid against each other, do rope twist or cross each other, does the tie snugly grip the body or do the bands shift around loosely on the skin, are the ends left hanging, bunched up and shoved away or meticulously tied off? Is the over all effect symmetrical? Does it complement the individual’s physique, etc?

But there is there is also the look of the actual rope itself to consider. Each material (hemp, flax, jute, silk, cotton, nylon etc) has its own unique appearance and then there are the construction whether it be braided or twisted, thickness and color to consider as well. I will get into these aspects separately in a moment.

Honestly there are times when the visual appearance of the bondage is more important to me than others. If I am doing a photo shoot, I naturally want the rope itself as well as the tie I am creating to be neat and pretty, but there are times when the intention of the scene is less about the visual and more focused on other things, like the energy exchange, the dynamics and sensations we are sharing, and how damn horny we are getting, so at those times my ties tend to be a bit faster, messier or “dirtier”.

I personally often find “messy ties” to have a greater “sex appeal” than perfectly executed and meticulous ties on bored to death or otherwise disengaged models. There is something really hot for me about the urgency of a “dirty and fast tie”, although my partner Brett reminded me that a slow meticulous tie executed with delicious sexual chemistry and a delightful teasing build up can be pretty damn hot too. However you prefer it, the bottom line for me is that the real juice is in the intention and the energy of the scene and its participants not just in the visual aspects of the rope work.

To illustrate this, these days when I am doing full or partial suspension bondage with my lover in our personal play, I often use a combination of silk for comfort and hemp for strength, even though the ropes do not actually look that great together. At these times, I care more about what am trying to accomplish than I do about how the bondage looks, and I find that using the silk for chest wraps under the arms and then adding a band of hemp over the arms gives me the strength I need while keeping him as comfortable as possible and able to stay in the tie even under other heavy physical duress (translated to: while I beat him with a really big stick). :)

My Brett in Red When I am focusing on the visual aspects of a tie for a photo shoot (as opposed to a scene) I will begin by making sure my ropes match and if I decide to use hemp for example I will use only hemp that visually matches and not different colors, thicknesses, and textures. I will also pay much closer attention to the symmetry and other visual aspects of the tie like deciding how many wraps it will take to create a band on the body so that it looks properly proportioned.

As for the use of color, I enjoy using brightly colored rope in certain situations for various reasons: to match a models skin tone, hair, accent clothing, create dramatic effects etc, but I more often than not prefer natural colored rope. First off I am a bit of a perfectionist and I hate that most dying processes do not color the rope all the way to the core. :P <bleh>

Furthermore, I feel there is something intrinsically and transparently beautiful about natural fiber on naked flesh. I love finding and appreciating beauty its simplest and purest form whenever possible these days. Even natural ropes come in a variety of shades from snow white bamboo, off white creamy silk, jutes that lean toward golden wheat like colors and the hemp I have tends to be a nice neutral tan which works well on most skin tones for me.

In addition to the color of the rope another thing I tend to notice is how well the ropes’ finish catches light. Some of the smoother textures tend to reflect light better than others. For example, most nylons have pretty high shine and some of the softer “grassy” ropes have a lovely warm sheen to them. Those of us who really appreciate beautiful rope photography will want to pay special attention to this quality as it can make a big difference in the photos.

Feel – Texture tends to be very important to me. When I touch the rope with my hands I am naturally feeling the texture of it as I glide it through my hands and over my fingers because I want to know how it is going to feel when I drag it across the bottom’s flesh. But, I also pay attention to a few others things such as the “burn speed” which is the amount of friction the rope creates as it drags across the skin. Many people are surprised to find that nylon rope which can feel smooth to the touch actually gets hotter faster than most natural fibered ropes such as cotton, hemp, jute or silk and thus is said to have a lower burn speed.

I also am often aware of the temperature of the rope as it goes onto my body. Not necessarily temperature as in was it stored in a warm or cold room or not (although that is naturally a factor as well because I truly dislike being cold) but I tend to find smoother textures often feel cooler than coarser ones even if stored in the same location and some materials seem to warm to the body quicker than others. For example, I almost always find braided nylon ropes to feel cooler than most twisted hemp and silk usually feels the warmest of all in my rope basket.

Another important factor I will include here (although these are more functional characteristics than an aesthetic feature) is how much stretch and compression the rope has. If I am doing a full or partial suspension I need to know whether the ropes are going to stay where I place them or stretch and shift more than will be comfortable or safe. A bit of stretch can be very desirable under certain circumstances and not good at all for others. I am especially fond of Madame Butterfly’s silk in this regard because the silk stretches enough to “breathe” with the bottom which can be very handy for some situations, & gentler intentions but it is not generally suitable to use for the main support lines in a suspension.

I am a reasonable enough sadist to understand that if I use rope that a sub won’t tear themselves to bits struggling in, I can keep them tied up longer tormenting them in other deliciously cruel and devious ways. As mentioned earlier, my Brett has lasted much longer in full and partial suspensions when I use the silk for the base wraps AND I have even been able to suspend him day after day without him feeling overly tender from the rope abrasions and contusions. I also adore the silk for sensual bedroom bondage when I want to be able to struggle or pull comfortably against the rope.

Part of its charm for me is that silk allows for a great deal of compression. The best way I can describe what I mean by compression is for me to have you imagine you have two fairly bony places tied together with a cinch between them and a bit of weight on the area. A dense rope that won’t compress will dig deeper into the flesh and cause more discomfort under this circumstance than one that has a lot of compressibility and give to it. For times when I am tying bony areas in close proximity and I want to insure either more comfort or less marks I will grab either a very smooth soft nylon or the soft spongy raw silk.

There are also days and instances when I crave the scratchier, coarser feel of some of the rougher grasses, but not often. I have some brand new jute for example that I bought from the Monk over a year ago and have only used once or twice because it is just so rough on the skin. Yes, I know that if I used it more often it would begin to soften but there in is one of life’s sweet ironies that it won’t get soft enough to use until you use it a lot so I tend to leave it in the basket and grab something that is far more usable now!

Smell – The sense of smell is absolutely connected to sexual response on a primal level and many bottoms get turned on just smelling certain kinds of rope. Each type of material has its own unique fragrance and can elicit different responses. In particular I love the natural scents of hemp, flax and silk. I am not overly wild about chemical or petroleum scented ropes.

Sexy chicken wing tie I tend to tell the story in my bondage class that the smell of natural rope is hard wired to sex for me because my first orgasm as a kid was climbing the thick ropes in gym class! (I was very good at rope climbing). ;) On the other hand, I find the smell of silk to be very comforting to me because I associate that scent with my mother who went through a phase of wearing raw silks shirts that I used to borrow fairly often. The point is, because of the place it gets stored in your brain, scents can be one of the easiest senses to exploit and one of the longest lasting associations to make.

Taste – Yes even taste can come into play in particular if you have a tendency to play with rope gags. Some ropes swell more than others when wet which you may want to consider as well if you want to make sure the submissive can still breathe freely.

While here it bears mentioning that some people have allergies to the natural fibers of hemp or jute and if in doubt it would be good to check before shoving a big wad of it into their mouth. ;) For more info on the use of gags & blindfolds I have another essay elsewhere on the blog: Blindfolds & Gags 101 and then some!

Sound –Ok, since rope all by itself tends to be pretty quiet, this one is not a major player for me but it the truth is when a submissive is blindfolded all of their other senses become heightened and if I close my eyes right now I can hear in my head the whispering friction sound of rope whooshing or whirring across itself, the snap of it slapping across my flesh, the ground or the rig (which also relates to feel) and the creaking sound it can make when you are suspended.

Ok that is about all I have to say at the moment .. if I think of anything else to add I will edit it in later.

Yours in rope .. Suze

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New Toys On the Way!

by admin on Mar.25, 2009, under Blog Entries & Musings, Dungeon Delights, General

1_8179Yayy!! I just got off the phone with Rick over at Dungeon Delights and am so excited I simply HAVE to share!!

Standing Cock & Ball Pillory - I have been wanting a standing cock and ball pillory for quite sometime but I just haven’t gotten around to picking one up and Rick and I chatted for abit today and I finally ended up ordering it and he has promised to send it along right away with a “boat load of accessories”.  Now if there is one thing I like better than new toys … it’s new toys with lots of accesories!!  :D  Woohooo!! 

ktb02New Rendition of a KTB - I also decided to go on and grab one of the moderate intensity KTB’s from Male Chastity Now that “Kyle” mentioned in his comment on my other blog to my “Chastity w/ Teeth Post” and  I have been told that should be here in a day or tow so I am practically bouncing up and down right now!! 

I will be sure to take a bunch of photos as soon as it all arrives and report back to you. <grin>

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Extreme CBT Fun

by admin on Mar.10, 2009, under Blog Entries & Musings, Dungeon Delights, Live sessions

This may come as a news flash to some folks that haven’t been paying attention but, I am definitely a sadist and I absolutely adore torturing a man’s cock & balls!  One of my absolute favorite victims for that kind of treatment is my buddy “$1000 Bill”.  :D

I nick named him that years ago because he always books longish sessions that run about .. you guessed it…. a thousand dollars, and that part is definitely awesome but that isn’t what makes him my favorite.  ;)

The fact that Bill’s favorite activities involve extreme cock and ball and nipple torture and he is simply a total delight to torment make my little heart go pitter pat when ever he emails to book an appointment!  He truly is one of the most extreme masochists I have ever had the pleasure of hurting and OMG I LOVE the way that man cries! He has howled and wailed and screamed sometimes so much that he has actually left here hoarse for a few days. (grin) I am so proud!  I also get to experiment on him and try things on his poor cock and balls that I haven’t tried on anyone else! (Can you say crash test dummy?) :) 

He also has shown up here with some of the coolest toys!  The steel rod pictured below is the thickest damn “sound” I have ever shoved into someone, (see the photo of it beside a chopstick for scale).  When he handed it to me to use I was actually shocked that he had said he could take it and holy shit I still needed to apply a hell of a lot of pressure to get it to go in.  So much so that it made an audible “pop” sound that scared me a bit.   <yipes!>

He also turned me onto the most extreme suction toy I have ever used (I ordered one and should have it in a couple of weeks!) The photo that has the rectangular white thing is the “cock ring” that slips over the device while you are pumping up the cock and then you slide that evil super tight ring over the device and onto the cock, trapping a hell of a lot of blood in there and making the cock super sensative! Yum I can’t wait until it gets here!  :D

Anyway.. I decided to post a gallery of a few of my most recent experimentation’s on Bill, including cock & ball bondage, ball stretching, my SxySadist Toothed Ring, an elastrator band on his nipple and more!   8)

I hope you enjoy the photos or they make you afraid .. very afraid, if that turns you on.  Whatever works for you! More soon!

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Romeo and Juliet

by admin on Feb.19, 2009, under By Others

Romeo & JulietWritten - May 22, 2008 by Quilnnib

Romeo had Juliet.

She fell for his whimsical nature, took him in after a night of charm and conversation. He was different, she thought. So why not share my bed? 

She was different, Romeo thought in the early minutes of their conversation. 

More spontaneous than changing winds. And damned hotter than the sun. 

And her door was open, the door to her mind. And he knew she wanted him. She knew he knew that, knew he had read her body language. 

And Romeo had his Juliet. 

He fucked her like doomsday was upon them, like she would he his last. Fucked her like a mad bastard, animal-like, lion-like, his loudest roar in the shudder of heart-pounding climax. 

He fucked her, and she let him, fucked her until a tide of sweat washed over them both, until sweat welled up on her brow and rolled in beads down his cheeks and neck, dripping onto her shoulder. 

Romeo had his Juliet. 

But she would have her Romeo. 

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The sun’s rays filtered through a curtained window, washing over the bed where Romeo lay, creating a mott led pattern over his slumbering form. 

Juliet had hours ago risen and shaken off the daze of being fucked like a king’s prized courtesan. Comfortably naked, she quietly sat at the foot of the bed, smiling, admiring her handiwork of having managed – without waking him – to spread her majesty’s limbs out to each bedpost and secure them with the stone-colored stockings she wore the night before and a fresh beige pair from her lingerie drawer. 

Romeo was turned face down and blindfolded with a black floral-patterned scarf, one more deed of stealth that Juliet would otherwise have allowed herself to be proud of if time allowed, but another moment was soon to be at hand. As he still slept, Juliette readied herself, fitting the gently curved red dildo into a harness, and slipping the straps up her legs and in place at her pelvis. 

Now the lioness taken the night before was the lion, and she would soon pounce. 

A digital clock on the night stand glowed 7:29; the colon separating the hour from minutes looked like it was bouncing with each pulsing second. Twenty-nine flickered to 30, and the bedroom echoed with the blare of an annoying drive-time radio jock’s lame, blowhard banter. 

Romeo stirred, groggy in the haze of half sleep, but grew aware of something anchoring him. As the noisy jock continued, Romeo tugged and arched his bound form, looking like a moth that had just flown into the sticky silk strands of a spider’s waiting net.

Juliet slapped the alarm clock into silence, and crawled swiftly toward her quarry, pinning his movements and hushing his struggles with her body as she straddled him; using the panties she had shed hours ago to welcome his cock, she hushed his emerging protests, securing the gag with yet another fresh beige stocking, knotting it tightly with a bow at the nape of his neck. 

Romeo could taste Juliet’s night-before, bitch-in-heat drenching absorbed in the leopard-print panties. If business didn’t come before pleasure, she would have taunted him to admit he craved the taste of their mustiness, demanded he call it nectar. But she was past that point, her hands at his ass, laying a slick path on which the red dildo would drive toward home. 

Romeo bucked against the coolness of the lube and Juliet’s insulting probes and gropes, and he bleated like a scared lamb into his gag. He saw none of predator’s stalking, none of the chase, yet felt all of the crash of sudden takedown. His heart raced and he could gauge the length of her lion’s cock as she pressed her lithe body fully against him to whisper into is ear. 

“Oh Romeo, Romeo … Wherefore art thou, Romeo?” Juliet teased and laughed. “Ah, yes,” she said, leaning back, aiming her dagger, “right here.” 

And Juliet had her Romeo. 

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