What's YOUR Agenda?

Early on in a coaching relationship we will go through a Discovery Process where you help me to understand who you are and what you most want out of life. We discuss your priorities and your values, your dreams, aspirations and goals (both short & long term). This allows us both to get a clearer picture of where you want to go and what fulfillment looks like to you. This will become our over all or "Big A" Agenda. That place that we will always hold as the guiding light to where you are heading.

However on the week to week basis lies the journey and many days this journey can consist of obstacles, situations and issues that crop up and need to be dealt with or explored to help you decide how best to deal with this to move you further along your path.

In coaching we are trained to always allow the agenda to come from the client. That means you get to decide what we will work on at any given time and the week to week sessions will often consist of "small a agenda" items. But I, as the coach, will always do my best to help keep our eye on the ultimate goal of your "Big A Agenda" and cheer you on to that beautiful brass ring.

A coach's job is to ask questions that make you think about your agenda in new ways. Some that may in fact "tick you off" and cause your "inner gremlins" to show themselves. Our "gremlins" or saboteurs are generally the voices in our heads that tell us "all the reasons why that idea or plan won't work" or that "change is bad" or that "we are not capable or do not deserve to follow our bliss". I will work with you and your gremlins as we move forward toward a greater sense of happiness and well being.

Wheel of Life

One of the tools we will use to do that is "The Wheel of Life" pictured above. I want you to take a moment to envision that the center of the wheel represents a "0" satisfaction level and that the outer rim repsrents a "10" or completely happy and satisfied with that area of your life. I would like you to imagine drawing a straight or curved line across each piece of the pie that would indicate how happy you are in that area and then connect the pieces together.

I am sure many of us would find that if our individual pieces were strung together in a wheel... that it would make for a very bumpy ride. I desire to help you balance or smooth out that ride and help you attain a much greater sense of inner peace and satisfaction.

The Coach / Client "Designed Alliance"

One of the fundamental principles of the Coach / Client model revolves around the concept that we are on equal planes. It is not a therapist / patient or student / teacher or even Mistress / slave relationship that sets one person on a higher level or plane than the other creating an inequitable exchange of power or status.

It does not assume that I am not smarter, more successful or better than you in ANY way. It therefore does not assume that you need to be fixed, nagged or lectured at or ordered to do anything at all that you do not wish to do.

Rather we sit down as two equals that are totally honest and transparent with each other and form an alliance, and it is this alliance that is granted the power to help you make any changes in your own life that YOU feel are right for you to make. Through this alliance we are able to openly explore your dreams and visions, your values and the areas of your life where you would like to affect positive movement.

Building Trust

As with any relationship one of the foundations of it is trust and I believe that there can be no meaningful exchange with out a bond of mutual trust between us.

One of the ways I intend to earn and maintain your trust is through my commitment to confidentiality. I will not be telling anyone that you are my client and I will not reveal what we talk about to anyone. I take this very seriously because it is important for me to know that you can feel free to talk about anything that you need to and trust that it will stay between us.

Another way in which we will give power to our alliance is through transparent honesty. This means stating exactly what we want from this relationship and how we need to interact together to make this work well for us both. To accomplish this, in our initial conversation, I will tell you the things I require from you to meet my needs in this relationship and you will tell me as clearly as you can what you desire and need from me.

A few of my requirements and requests are:

That you be completely honest with me. If we are to be able to work together I need to trust that what you tell me is "your truth" as you know it at the depth of your being. "I don't know" may be the truth at any given moment but you can expect and trust that together we will work at digging deeper into the truth beneath that.

I need you to understand that while I am a very compassionate and loving woman. I also will not tolerate anything from you but your best and I will hope that you will ask and require the same from me. If I get the sense you are "bull shitting" me or yourself you can bet I will call you on it. If you make a commitment to me to do a task or "homework" assignment, I will expect that you keep that commitment and I will hold you accountable for your actions.

However, I also ask that if you ever feel that I am "off base" with what I am offering or suggestion to you that you will be honest and tell me so. My intuition is pretty damn good but I am not perfect. If what I am saying or asking you doesn't seem to fit ... say so. I am a "big girl" and please do not be concerned with hurting my feelings. If you are paying for a service then you have the right to expect it to have value in your life.

At the same time, if I ever feel we are delving into an area that is beyond my ability to explore with you comfortably and completely free of judgment then I will tell you so. I want you to feel free to talk to me about anything and my own varied and unique personal experience has afforded me the opportunity to become familiar with many unusual and unique perspectives, desires and lifestyles. I assure you that there is VERY little that will shock me. <grin>

I ask that if you make an appointment with me that you keep it and be on time or do your best to give me some advance notice. I do understand that sometimes "shit happens" and I promise you the same courtesy because I also respect and value your time.

Logistical Stuff

I am open to offering this service in person at my home, via the phone or by e-mail. So I can offer you life coaching no matter where you live in the world or how hectic your schedule is. Most commonly it is done by phone and takes the form of 3 to 4 - thirty minutes phone calls or sessions per month for a monthly fee that you pay at the beginning of each month via check, money order or Paypal.

Since I am still in training, I am offering this service at a low introductory fee of $80 per session for a limited time but once I complete my training that fee will be increasing to one more with in the typical range (generally 125 - 150 per session and up). This is a great opportunity for you to benefit from Personal Life Coaching skills at an affordable rate! So let's get started right away!

How do we Get Started?!

Getting started is easy... simply drop me an email by clicking here: Life Coach Inquiry and we will set up our Discovery Session! In this session I will get to know who you are as a person, what you really value in your life and what your dreams and goals are!

Then we can work out a schedule to begin making those dreams a reality! You CAN acheive your dreams and I want to help! I look forward to hearing from you soon!

Namaste~ Suzanne SxySadist