Whether I am working one on one with individuals or standing
before a group, I consider my work to be educational in nature.
Not only is it educational for the person or people I am working
with, but it ia always educational for me as well. The more
people I meet and the more I learn about what others desire
and want to explore, the more I am faced with mirrors and
opportunities to expand my own horizons and self awareness.
I am experienced with many forms of BDSM and erotic sexual
play and love to share knowledge with private individuals
and other community members as a group, couple or individually.
I am capable of and enjoy teaching many more topics than
the ones listed below. If you or your group has a particular
class in mind that you are interested and do not see it listed
below drop me a note at Mistress@SxySadist.com
and ask me about it.
Current List of Classes & Descriptions:
Bondage Classes -
Rope Bondage / Shibari 101 & 201
Bondage plays at least a small part in more kinky sexual fantasies than almost any other activity, and yet bondage can be an entire world unto itself. There is no end to the ways that one person can bind another and the reasons or intentions for doing so can be as varied as the means. Rope bondage in particular can seem daunting to some who may fear they would be required to learn a lot of fancy knots or overly intricate ties, but I wish to assure you that if you can tie your shoes, you can bind your lover for mutual pleasure, good times and fantasy fulfillment.
The 101 class begins with a slideshow presentation about bondage basics, negotiating a scene, rope selection and care, and good basic safety information. Afterwards there will be some hands-on workshop time where I will teach some basic utility ties & cuffs that are suitable for any gender or sexual persuasion.
In the second half we will expand upon the skills we started with earlier and start to incorporate a simple shibari chest harnesses suitable for men or women as well as crotch ropes for both genders. Time permitting we will move on to some very simple diamond harnesses, arm binders or other decorative but useful stuff. The focus of these classes will be on keeping it simple to understand, follow and remember so that you can actually learn and retain these ties.
All are welcome to attend but if you would like to participate please bring at least two 30 - 40 foot sections of pliable rope and someone to share it with. If you do not have a partner but wish to learn to tie someone or have a chance to be tied in a safe environment, come on in anyway and there will be an opportunity to pair up for practice purposes!
Includes 4 page hand out. Best done with a minimum of 90 mins - 2 hrs - more time when possible allows for more hands on time & more ties or to be done as a Part 1 and part 2 following:
Binding the Jewels – Cock & Ball Bondage
The male genitalia lends itself beautifully to many types of bondage and it is a wonderful way to remind him that YOU are totally in charge. In this class we will explore some basic safety info and then do a hands on demo of some of my favorite cock & ball bondage ties. It is suitable for all skill levels.
Please bring a subject to work on and some fairly thin rope, cord or twine. If you do not have rope I will bring extra to give to you. Also, if any unattached males show up I will be seeking volunteers from the audience to demonstrate on.
Includes a 2 page hand out - Minimum 90 mins
Torture Ties and Bondage for S&Mers
Who ever said bondage is supposed to be comfortable? Bondage arts have been used for centuries to arrest, interrogate through torture and even execute unfortunate victims. While I prefer my play partners to walk or at least limp away when I am through with them, I certainly do get turned on by putting folks into some pretty extreme and torturous ties. (volunteers will be sought from the audience!) <grin>
In this fairly advanced class we will explore sadism, masochism & edge play with rope and include topics such as predicament bondage, partial suspension & hojo jutsu (perhaps even a bit of breath play) This class is NOT for newbies and no one will be admitted more than 5 mins late to the class.
Minimum 2 hrs
Rope Suspension Demo
Rope suspension bondage can be a beautiful art form, a sadistic form of torture, a tool to achieve meditative states and ... potentially fatal. There are very few activities that we engage in that have as large a potential for injury & death as suspension bondage but like so many other edge play activities, many of us are drawn to it anyway.
In this demonstration, I will talk about some of the reasons why people are drawn to suspension bondage, rope selection, basic bondage & mechanical safety, and then suspend myself or a volunteer.
Please be aware that this is NOT intended to be a how-to class, this is merely a demonstration and primer class. It also includes a beautiful slide show presentation of many
different suspension ties that we will discuss, dissect and use for future inspiration.
Minimum 90 mins - 2 hrs - longer allows for more live demos
Chest & Body Harnesses
For most bondage bottoms, there is nothing like the feeling of rope encasing your chest so that you feel it with every single breath. Chest harnesses also have many advantages for rope tops which can include presentation, decoration, attachment points and more! In this class we will explore as many different chest harnesses as time allows. Please come to class with at least two 25 - 30 foot pieces of soft pliable rope and someone to share them with. If you do not have a partner and wish to participate in the hands on we will do our best to partner folks up.
Best done with a minimum of 90 mins - 2 hrs - more time when possible allows for more hands on time & more ties or to be done
Not all bondage bottoms resemble the teensy little Asian gals for which many of the popular shibari ties were designed. Many bottoms have past injuries or inflexibility issues that the bondage top needs to take into account when planning the scene. I believe that it is up to the top to do their best to design a bondage that will work for the unique body they will be tying without shaming or otherwise injuring the bottom further in any way.
In this class / demo I will try to demonstrate some of the ways that I have learned to adapt bondages over the years to accommodate people of different abilities and sizes. I intend to cover different ways of tying wrists that do not meet behind the back, as well as a few variations on chest ties, and arm binders for people with flexibility issues. Time permitting I will also try to get to floor work bondages such as hog ties and crab leg positions. Volunteers of all shapes, sizes and abilities will be sought from the audience and treated with care and respect.
90 mins to 2 hrs - longer allows for some hands on practice.
Fun with "Floor Work"
Sure tying people to fancy dungeon equipment can be a blast when you are at an event or a club, but what if you don't have any of that in your living room at home? And yes, suspension work is hot and sexy as hell (not to mention dangerous) but if you aren't ready for that quite yet what else can you do with some rope & your imagination? There are dozens of ways to have fun with someone when all you have is some rope and an open piece of floor.
In this workshop we will explore as many different positions and uses for them (wink) as we are able in the time allotted. Bring a partner if you have one, your rope bag and a mat, pillow or blanket for working on the floor more comfortably. If you are single looking to tie or be tied come on down and we will do our best to pair folks up for practice purposes.
The Joys of Flying "Low"
Suspension is suspension whether you are 2 inches, 2 feet or 20 feet off the ground. Yes, sometimes added height can be an advantage for certain types of play or for "showy" or performance art scenes, but I have discovered some of my sexiest and most intimate suspension play can happen when my partner is barely off the floor. These days I love to slide in underneath them and lie on my back while they are hanging there just above me barely a breathy kiss distance away as I languishly run my nails across their body. Ahhh yes, there is much that can be said and relished about low to the ground suspension work and this is also a great way to get a feel for and experience with suspension while minimizing risks associated with falls from higher altitudes.
In this hands on class we will explore some ways to play with partial and full suspensions that are close to the ground. My preference would be that you attend my earlier class "Fun with Floor work" as a pre requisite but if you have at least a good solid intermediate level knowledge of bondage and can demonstrate thus, then you may attend. As always please bring your rope bag, a partner if you have one, and a pillow or blanket if you are able as we will ALL be on the floor for at least part of this class. If you are single looking to tie or be tied come on down and we will do our best to pair folks up for practice purposes.
Other SM & Edgeplay Topics -
The world of BDSM is a vast and multi faceted one and it can be quite a daunting and frightening realm for those with little to no experience to enter. This very basic class will start with explaining some key terminology such as what does BDSM stand for anyway and what do those elements involve? Why do people do that kinky stuff? How can someone protect themselves while "learning the ropes"? Where can someone just starting out get more information?
Bring your questions and an open mind and enjoy an informal and educational evening with an experienced lifestyler and professional dominatrix.
Minimum 2 hrs is best to include a good Q & A section
Ecstatic Caning Class & Workshop
Few implements in the S&M world strike as much fear into the hearts of some people as the cane. The mere mention of the word alone can make many cringe in fear and start muttering about safe words & hard limits. However, there are many of us that understand that a cane in the hand of an experienced and talented Master or Mistress, has the capability of delivering an exquisite range of sensation and producing some of the most amazing endorphin fueled journeys imaginable.
In this class Suzanne SxySadist will talk about the difference between rods and canes, cane selection, care and cleaning, where to cane, positions for caning, techniques for different effects and sensations and most near to her heart, the use of conscious breathing techniques to help the bottom to fly ecstatically and beg you for more.
Time permitting she will open it into a hands on workshop and assist those that are still developing their own caning skills and styles to incorporate some of what she has shown experientially. Bring your implements and a willing partner if you have one, but singles are welcome as well and best efforts will be made to get you some practice time.
Minimum 90 mins for class or 2 hrs for Hands on workshop
Single Tail Class & Workshop
Ahh nothing says sweet sexy sadism like the "swish.snap!" of the single tail whip!! What REALLY makes someone good with a whip? Is it the ability to consistently crack it at deafening decibels? Is it the ability to hit your mark with in a 6, 4 or 2 inch range more often than not? Is it the ability to read your bottom's breath and movements and know exactly how much contact to make with the whip when and where and the delightful ability to kiss and caress the flesh in one moment and then deliver a fiery napalm like strike that takes the submissive or bottom to the edge of their endurance and then whisper kiss and stroke their flesh softly as they catch their breath and beg for more?
Some things you can learn by discussing, some things you can learn by watching, and some things you can learn only by doing and doing and doing. So, there will be very little lecture here but a lot of whip throwing going on. If you are new to the signal whip and still trying to figure out which end to hold or how to get the damn thing to go where you want it to or if you are an experienced handler and want to be in whip space with other whip lovers or offer your own techniques and advice, please bring your whips and come on by. If you do not own one and are curious what it is like to throw one, I will bring several for people to try. If you simply adore the sound or kiss or sting of the whip, then by all means cum on by.
Minimum 2 hrs needs to be a large space, includes a 4 page handout
Breath & Blood Flow Play
There's something tremendously erotic about
surrendering your very life to someone you (believe you)
can trust. Breath play is edgy, scary, dangerous, and hot
as hell! Why do you think so many people love it!?
class will demonstrate some of the most common forms and
styles of breath play from smothering to bagging and even
include blood flow play techniques such as carotid artery
It will also include enough safety information
that you can make fully informed decisions as to whether the risks are acceptable to you and what styles of breath play are "safer" than others.
This is NOT a 101 class and definitely not for everyone!
Minimum 90 mins includes a 4 page hand out
BDSM on a Budget - Shopping for Inexpensive Toys
Suzanne SxySadist is a lifestyle switch, professional dominant and well respected member of the NY SM scene, with over a decade of experience. When first starting out in the lifestyle she quickly discovered that BDSM toys can be very expensive, so she used her imagination and a bunch of everyday items you can find around the house to fill her kinky toy bag.
Although her toy bag is now quite extensive and filled with lots and lots of expensive toys, she does still enjoy making toys of her own and finding kinky treasures in unlikely places. In this class she will tell you some of her favorite places to shop for "pervertables", show off lots of examples and demonstrate a few simple things you can make yourself.
Minimum 90 mins
Needle Play: The Basics & Beyond
Rarely has such a small "prick"
caused such pleasure - but a well placed needle is the exception!
This workshop will cover the basics of doing needle play;
what you need, safety and basic insertion techniques etc.
This presentation includes a slide show presentation of
some more advanced techniques such as lacing, body adornment,
surgical stapling & suturing.
There is also a hands-on training portion
that includes a chance for members of the audience to try
it themselves - either by being pierced or by piercing a
willing participant. If you have ever wanted to actually
learn how to do safely and erotically include needle play
in your scenes, here is your chance!
Minimum 2 hrs to include a short hands on portion .. longer if possible
My Other Class Offerings (The "woo woo" stuff)
"Learning to Fly" - Ecstatic Percussion Workshop
What makes for a truly great percussion play scene? Is it the implements involved, (a cane, floggers, paddles, fists) the dynamic between the players (Master / slave, Dominant/ submissive, top / bottom) the intention of the scene or something more?
As a switch, I used to occasionally struggle to endure through the pain of heavy corporal in hopes that it would eventually "get better" or the top would get tired and move on to something I found more enjoyable. Then I discovered how the use of ecstatic breath work could help me stay more grounded, relaxed and connected to my partner, and thereby help me to transform and eroticize strong sensation into something not just to be endured but relished and enjoyed. Suddenly we were embarking onto some of the most amazingly connected and endorphin fueled journeys I could have ever imagined. I finally learned to fly on canes and I owe it all to learning how to breathe with my partner.
In this class we will now put to use the Ecstatic Breathing techniques we learned earlier to practice in a practical workshop setting. Tops will be encouraged to coach their bottoms to breathe more fully and will learn to become attuned to timing our strokes with the breath and vice verse. This class is not about basic percussion play skills and it will be assumed that the participants are already familiar with the basics of doing percussion play. Bring your favorite implements and a willing partner if you have one, but singles are welcome as well and best efforts will be made to get you some practice time.
Minimum 2 hrs
Intention and Connection
Have you ever wanted to add a more "magical" element to your play? Or perhaps you have a yearning to build on the trust and intimacy already present between you and partner and transform it into something even more special. Most of us have a desire to share great levels of love, intimacy and connection with our chosen partners but think that that kind of connection and magic in a scene either just happens or takes a long time to build. This does not have to be the case. I believe that anyone can transform their play and other intimate relationships by understanding each other's intention and desires and by focusing on staying connected to each other during the scene.
This class focuses on understanding what drives us internally to engage in "what it is that we do" as well as exploring and expanding your use of specific intention to guide a scene and create a deeper and more meaningful shared experience for you and your partner. We will also explore what it means to be energetically connected to our play partners and others through the practice of some verbal as well as non verbal communication skills. We will use several tools and experiential exercises that will help you to strengthen intimacy, and create a stronger sense of purpose in your scenes. It is my belief that incorporating some of these practices into your play is one way to take your experience beyond the physical into the realm of the energetically ecstatic and spiritual.
Minimum 2 hrs - longer when possible Includes a 4 page handout .. works best when offered with the following class as a series:
Ecstatic Breath Ritual & Workshop
Breath is primal. It is the first thing we did upon entering this world and it will be one of the only constants we will know until we draw our last breath upon leaving it. The use of breath to attain altered states of consciousness has been practiced for centuries. It can also be used to manage pain, shift the body's physical and emotional state and connect you energetically to other human beings.
In this workshop we will explore completely safe conscious breathing techniques that can be used with in the context of BDSM scenes and other forms of love making. Some of these techniques are designed to help us connect more deeply to our own core, while also allowing for a deep connection with others and enjoying amazing shared experiences including "Breath Orgasms".
Please note that this class is about bringing our consciousness to breath and voluntarily altering your own breathing patterns to achieve ecstatic effects. It has nothing to do with "Breath Play" which is an entirely different topic. It is strongly suggested that you wear loose comfortable clothing and bring a mat or thick blanket to lie on as we will be laying down on the floor for the final breath exercise.
90 mins is very tight - 2 hrs prefered includes a 2 page handout No Late Admittance and should be a carpeted "warm" space
Sacred "Root" Play
The base chakra work or more simply put: "ass, anal & prostate play" is an area that calls to a lot of men in particular but sadly is also one that has a lot of stigma and shame attached to it. Quite often ass play is done from an attitude of humiliation or degradation which can further increase the shame attached to the exploration. As a result there is a great need for healing work in this realm. I prefer to approach "root work" from a place of respect, reverence and sincere caring.
This class will briefly cover some good basic knowledge such as anatomy and safety as well as suggestions for preparation work to this kind of play. It will then shift to focusing on relaxation techniques such as conscious breath work and massage for the surrounding area and will also cover specific strokes and techniques for opening the root chakra gently and painlessly to allow for sensual exploration. We will also cover prostate massage and reveal the elusive "million dollar spot".
This class will be limited in size and once the doors close no one else will be admitted, so please get there early.
Includes a 4 page hand out. I have special requirements regarding attendance and "FEEL" of the space. No late admittance!!
Taoist Erotic Massage For Men
Erotic Massage techniques are simple to learn and can help your man achieve greater levels of pleasure than he has ever imagined. In this literally "hands-on" class you and he can learn how to build erotic energy to a fevered pitch using a wide variety of strokes, and delay orgasm through conscious breath work and energy cycling. This can lead to the ultimate in Tease & Denial, or to ecstatic states of divine union rarely experienced through "traditional" sex.
This class is open to men and women who wish to learn how to please their favourite cock (even if it is your own). Bring a towel, a sheet and or mat to lie on, a bottle of lube, gloves if you desire and a willing cock. Time permitting anal massage strokes and prostrate work
will be included as well.
Includes a 4 page hand out. I have special requirements regarding attendance and "feel" of the space. No late admittance permitted!!
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Mistress Suzanne SxySadist
Suzanne SxySadist is a NY area lifestyle
switch, professional dominant, Life Coach and BDSM Educator with over
a decade of experience in the public scene. She has been asked to present
for many NY and New England groups as well as several national conferences on a variety of topics
and loves sharing her knowledge & skill with others in the community.
She is passionate about her personal thirst for knowledge and growth in the lifestyle and she has been especially drawn to rope bondage in it's many forms including shibari, suspension and predicament styles for many years now. Some of her other scene specialties and
passions include percussion / impact
play especially single tails and canes, sensual sadism in all it's glory and kinky medical role play, just to name a few. Her favorite scenes are always ones that include a spiritual connection and deep sense of shared erotic energy between partners.
Some of her other fields of expertise include sexual healing & energy work, Taoist erotic
massage for men & women and she is a Body Electric trained
Sacred Intimate. More info on her can be found on her web
site at www.SxySadist.com