The "No / Not List"

Although my sessions can be very sensual & erotic, my personal boundaries do NOT include having sexual relations with clients.

There is NO exchange of body fluids of any kind. In addition to the obvious, this means: I do NOT allow any form of oral body worship on the most personal areas of my body. I will occasionally allow clothed face sitting in a smothering type scene but do NOT ask to orally worship or satisfy me sexually as part of your submission. That is simply not going to happen in a professional setting.

I also appreciate that many men find me attractive but I get very annoyed by people that wish to treat me merely as "eye candy" or suggest that they would enjoy the scene a lot more if I was wearing less. I will often accommodate a leg or foot fetishist by wearing nylons & heels but do NOT think for a moment that you will get to see me if you expect me to be naked or wearing "nothing but boots & a thong" in our professional session. More people get turned down for sessions based on their desired Mistress attire than for any other reason.

On that note, I have come to the realization that I do not enjoy working with people that are completely focused on particular fetishes. I feel that the majority of latex fetishists, for example, are far more focused on what I am wearing than the connection between us, or my skills or anything else that makes me uniquely me. I do not enjoy working with people that are just out to "get their kinky rocks off".

In my professional sessions I do NOT engage in any form of toilet games which includes: NO golden / brown showers! Although I do occasionally enjoy age play sessions I DON'T change dirty diapers. Also, enema & anal play scenes with me require that you have an enema or otherwise clean yourself out before you get here. I see that as a simple matter of respect and it makes the scene more enjoyable for us both. Furthermore, because of the amount of time involved expelling the fluid following an enema scene, and the fact that it is often difficult to expell that fluid completely within the time contraints of a short session, I rarely mix enema play and anal or root work in the same session because having that fluid leak all over me, my table and my dungeon is rather unpleasant for us both. This is why I request that if you wish to explore anal work with me, that you arrive already prepped for that type of exploration.

I will NOT intentionally engage in what I deem dangerous activities or things that will do permanent damage to a sub's body. Which means NO: "bagging," heavy damaging type ball kicking, castration and the like. (You would be AMAZED at some of the horrifying things I have been asked to do to some people.) Also I do temporary piercings but rarely do permanent ones, sorry.

Although I do enjoy very heavy and sadistic play with my favorite pain sluts, I also have limits. If flirting with death is your kick good luck to you but do NOT ask me to go beyond what I consider safe, and sane play.

I am absolutely NOT a female supremacist and I do NOT enjoy scenes that are based on abuse or humiliating and degrading people. If you NEED to feel humiliated in order to explore this realm then I am not the right Domme for you. I am a strong beleiver that you attract to you, the kind of energy you put out to the world and generally I feel "humiliation energy" as a negative force so it is not one that I enjoy working with on the whole. I feel that most of us already carry far too much shame in relation to our sexuality and I do not like feeding shame in people but rather I prefer working with people to expel it from their lives.

Also, I am not overly fond of scenes that involve "forced" anything. I much prefer working with people that come to me with a desire to serve and explore and enjoy the energy that we can create together.

If all of this is acceptable to you and you wish to meet with me, read on.

Contact & Booking Information

Do not even consider contacting me until you have read and understand my No / Not List above!!

Once you have done so, all prospective submissives are required to fill out an extensive application form no matter which type of training you are seeking. There are NO EXCEPTIONS!

This form helps me decide if I wish to meet with you and also provides the info needed to plan our first encounter. The form may be filled out by clicking this link: application form.

You may email me with specific questions at Mistress@SxySadist.com

Availability & Locations:

Northwestern Connecticut

I can most often be found at my home location in CT's Litchfield County. I am specifically located in Winsted which is about halfway between NYC & Boston. My location is is private & discreet with safe off street parking.

To get an idea of driving distance from your location to within a few miles of mine click the link below.

Map of Winsted, CT 06098

I am also easily accessible via bus out of the Port Authority Bus Terminal in NYC. For schedule information please go to Peter Pan's Home Page and put Winsted as your destination.

I prefer to take appointments here Mon - Fri from 10 am - 6p but evening and weekend appointments can be arranged with special notice. Overnight sessions are also available on a very limited basis. I much prefer to book new people at least 48 - 72 hours ahead so that you can follow my confirmation procedures.

For a more photos and a more detailed listing of what these facilities offer, please click here: Home Facilities

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My Other Locations:

The Berkshires - La Domaine Esemar:

This has become one of my favorite places to play outside my own facilities! I am told that La Domaine is the oldest slave training chateau in the world. and I certainly believe it is the finest. I have been heading up to this location (90 miles north of Poughkeepsie ... 30 mins from Albany) two or three days a month when I can manage it. It is worth the trip!

For more information on how to book a session with me there or about this wonderful BDSM training chateau in general please email me by clicking here: La Domaine Sessions

Midtown Manhattan at Salon d'Orleans

The wonderful Miss Troy Orleans has offered me use of her fabulous studio in Midtown NY. So if you are in NYC or soon will be and would like to see me there drop me a note!

Long Island NY

I grew up on Long Island and have many friends & family ties there as well as many clients from my early days as a pro domme. Once a month or so I pop down to visit, (usually for an overnight stay) and will sometimes book sessions while I am in town. (Although I do not currently have a dungeon space there that meets my specifications so I often do these sessions in a motel and bring my toy bag)