Frequently Asked Questions
For your convenience, and so that I can avoid
responding to the same questions over and over again in
email, I have decided to add this list of most frequently
asked questions and my replies to them.
Please read these carefully and if you don't
find the information you seek also check out my "Interview"
If after thoroughly checking my site you have
other questions that you would like answered you may email
them to me at Mistress@SxySadist.com
Q: Is that really you in the pics? How tall/
old/ are you? What's your shoe size etc.?
A: <rolling eyes> Yes that is really
me in all the pics on my site and most of the pics are no
more than 3 months old. My birthday is Jan 26th (I am an
Aquarian) but when asked the year I generally say "I
am old enough to know what I am doing and young enough to
still have fun & look good doing it". Those that
are privy to the actual number usually tell me that they
are surprised since I have a very bubbly & energetic
personality and certainly "don't act my age".
I am 5 foot 9 inches tall in my bare feet
but enjoy wearing 3 inch heels or better in session putting
me closer to 6 foot.
For those that enjoy buying me clothing as
gifts, I take a size large in most fetish clothes. I wear
a size 8.5 shoe / boot. Your best bet is to err on the side
of too big rather than too tight since I like to be able
to move & breathe when I play... silly me huh?
Q: How long have you been a Domme?
A: I began in the lifestyle as a sub in the
early 90's and started "topping" after about two
years. I still consider myself a switch and I thoroughly
enjoy both sides of the whip.
Q: What do you enjoy most in a scene?
A: Well as romantic as it may sound, what
I love most is making fantasies come true for my very special
playmates. I screen the applications carefully to be sure
that there are some common interests before I will set an
appointment with a new sub. My attitude is "If
I am not going to have fun... then the sub won't have fun
either." Once I decide to meet someone I use the form
to plan the scene around what things we are interested in
and have in common. I enjoy a wide variety of activities
but most of my faves are listed on the site under Activities.
Q: Is there any sex permitted in a scene?
A: (Laughing) People do actually ask that
on a regular basis, and NO there is NO sex permitted in
my sessions. OK, well actually I guess dildo training is
a grey area, and can be considered sex from a legal stand
point but I only engage in that activity with people I know
well - or wish to get to know well (wink).
I DO NOT get undressed, NOR do I let a sub
touch me in any sexual way. There is NO oral worship allowed
on my private areas and you can trust that I will NOT be
doing that for you either.
I have a boyfriend and I am in a committed
relationship emotionally. He is
If you have other questions as to what is
and is NOT allowed please see my No / Not list.
Q: What do you like to do when you are not torturing people?
A: Hmmm, well although that is always high
on my list of favorite activities.. I also have several
other passions including: dancing and bonsai!! I also spend
a lot of time learning about things that interest me and
working on the web sites. I am currently taking Dreamweaver,
Photo shop 6 (can you tell from my little purple background
change above that I like that one?) and also basic HTML,
so that I continue to make my web sites the best they can
be. (Yes, I do them myself and it is A LOT of work!.)
Q: Do you enjoy dominating with other Mistresses and is
it better than dominating on your own?
A: I prefer one on one sessions for the most
part. I find it easier to get into the scene when I have
complete control over it and I can concentrate on my play
partner's needs and responses. I do occasionally do sessions
with a few wonderful Dommes who are my friends.
Q: Do you enjoy clubs, parties, nightclubs? Do you attend
such events or places, regularly??
A: I definitely love playing in public at
BDSM clubs, events and private parties both as a Domme and
with my Switch mate as a sub. As far as special events go,
he and I have attended the Leather Retreat in PA three years
in a row and Black Rose a couple of times which was a blast!!
I try to get to Paddles in the city when I can but my schedule
is pretty hectic and I don't get there as often as I would
like. There is however, a local group in the Hudson
Valley that sponsors play parties once or twice a month.
Those are always a lot of fun.
Q: Do you ever play for free or just the
fun of it rather than doing pay for play sessions? Are you
looking for any domestic servants, personal slaves or live
ins? And Do you have female slaves?
A: I can answer these in one shot. I play
as often as I am physically able most weeks, but my schedule
is insane!! I do all the work on my web sites myself, and
I am forever taking college courses on things that interest
me. I do pro sessions usually 4 or 5 days a week and then
I go to the play parties on the weekend to have some fun
with my friends and still try to make arrangements to get
a trip to subspace myself when possible at least every other
week. It is very relaxing for me and I need the stress relief.
I am NOT looking for any personal pets, subs,
slaves, domestic help or boy toys at this time. I have a
domestic partner that I live with and who also happens to
be my favorite playmate.
I don't think most subs have any idea the
kind of expenses Dommes incur and what it costs to stock
a good dungeon. I love this lifestyle, but the money helps
make it affordable to me, which helps keep me available
to you. Simple, huh?
I am good at what I do, have probably somewhere
near $30K invested in equipment & toys and I deserve
what I ask for as "tribute" for my skill and expertise.
When I am playing for free, it is for my
own enjoyment and that of my partner & dear friends,
of which I have no shortage of volunteers. :) I have several
female friends that I enjoy playing with at the club I go
to but I do not have any female slaves, nor do I invite
them into my professional sessions to be shown off in front