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Are You Curious and New to the Scene, but hesitant to take the plunge?<\/h4>\nAre You Curious and New to the Scene, but hesitant to take the plunge?<\/h4>\nI consider it an honour, privilege as well as a responsibility to be someone’s “first” and very much enjoy showing newcomers to the scene “the ropes”. I take extra care and go very slowly in these cases. I also will often take much more time to explain things through out the session and ask for feedback and open communication so that I can be sure their needs are being met. Want to know even more about how I approach “Newbies”? Please read on.<\/p>\n
I have often done what I call a “Newbie Sampler”. This seems to work well for “first timers”. Generally, I review your form to check for any thing I need to be aware of (medical, health or other issues etc.) and get an idea what you have expressed the most interest in i.e.: corporal play, bondage, humiliation etc. Then I’ll take a few things from each category and loosely structure our time together.<\/p>\n
I start very slowly and do my best to put you at ease, this is supposed to be fun after all, and if you are a nervous wreck it is hard to enjoy yourself. I am not a huge advocate of shoving “safewords” at newbies. Yes, I think it is a great concept and there are many situations in which I do feel they are indispensable but I tend to prefer open communication. I like to go slowly and watch reactions to things. If something looks like it hurts and you aren’t enjoying it, I stop and ask if you are ok and would like to try something else, simple.\u00a0 I remember long ago forgetting a safeword in a scene once and being too embarrassed to admit it to the Dom. Also, in the case of bottoms that tend to go non verbal or slip into a blissful subspace, you find out pretty quickly that verbal communication is not always possible. I tend to believe that if a Dom\/me has to rely on safewords all the time to know if a sub is in trouble then the sub needs to find a new Dom\/me.<\/p>\n
Throughout the session I monitor your reactions and get a feel for what feels good and what doesn’t and what we may need to save for another time. I encourage verbal feedback if you are comfortable enough to give it, but body language and facial expressions tell me volumes about what you are feeling. I don’t try to “push” newbies the first couple sessions unless they ask me to step it up a bit. I find it so much more rewarding to begin slowly and watch them progress at their own pace.<\/p>\n
There is no required level you must reach… no particular thing you must endure before I am satisfied. While I do enjoy (very much) playing with experienced players that can handle tremendous amounts of sadistic torture, I also adore seeing the look in someone’s eyes when I know their fantasies are being fulfilled and they are pleased with the time we have spent together. After a session I encourage new clients to write me a letter telling me what they liked most, what they might want to not do again, what they may be interested in for a future session and any other relevant feedback they think I would find useful for future sessions.\u00a0It is important to me to know I did my best to satisfy the needs of my playmates, but I realize I may not meet those needs for everyone, especially the first time. I am not strict or demanding enough for some peoples’ fantasy Domme scenario. I tend to be very playful and erotically teasey, but am quite sensually sadistic with those that can handle it.<\/p>\n
Hey, let’s be honest … the financial tributes I receive as a Professional Domme are critical to my staying in business to (be) serve(d) another day (lol), but\u00a0I really LOVE what I do, whether it be with hardcore pain puppies, cross dressers or total newcomers, I enjoy fulfilling fantasies within the BDSM realm. I am a strong believer in “following your bliss”… and I have found a way to do just that and it brings much joy to my life. I wish you all the joy that comes with living your dreams.<\/p>\n
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You may also want to read some of my Testimonials<\/a> from other clients and submissives to help get a sense for what others say about their experiences with me.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"