So some of you are already aware that I REALLY like learning new stuff because I REALLY HATE being bored or feeling stagnant. That said, I think I already mentioned that I signed up to do the 6 month ShamanicKink Certification course that starts at the spring equinox in March of 2026! That is going to be a very intense and time consuming training that will help me learn to dive deeper into assisting my clients that wish to explore kink from a perspective of healing past traumas and empowering them to move forward in different areas of their lives.

I am also signed up and getting close to embarking on the Urban Tantra Professionals week long immersive from Nov 3 – 9th at my beloved Easton Mountain, taught by a woman I admire greatly and have known at least 25 years named Barbara Carrellas. Urban Tantra will help me learn even more about ecstatic breath work and moving energy in the body to create altered & transformative states, and so much more than I can even begin to describe in a simple blog post! Needless to say, I am stoked and part of my brain thought – “OK Suze, that sounds like quite enough on your plate at the moment – maybe it’s time to slow your roll for a bit considering those two courses alone cost close to 10k”.”

But then, I started to read one of the 6 books that were required reading for UT (Urban Tantra) is called “The Art of Receiving and Giving – The Wheel of Consent” and OMG reading this book felt a little like finding a missing piece of a puzzle that I didn’t even know I needed until it fell in my lap. And it sort of feels like – it might change so much about the way I approach kink play.

I am not really ready to say a lot more about this but I want to just leave off with asking you one question…. When was the last time some sincerely asked you what you REALLY want to experience right now? Like if you could be touched EXACTLY the way you want – could you tell me what you really desire? I don’t think most people have EVER been asked that question before, and sadly I feel like even fewer people either know what they want or could articulate it. Sadly, I think much of the time we are happy to tolerate or endure any kind of touch we can get and would “happily” just go along with whatever the Domina decides to do as long as it doesn’t cross a limit too badly. But what would it look like if you could work with someone that REALLY wanted to know what you ACTUALLY want to experience? (within my own limits / boundaries of course)

What if you could learn a way to communicate with other people in your life to find out what they most want / need and you were able to create a way of exploring each other’s desires in a way the was able to meet both of your needs? Sounds like a win / win right? I think so too. So, I signed up for a course called “Like a Pro” from the School of Consent that is going to run from Oct 28th until Dec 10th and will entail zoom meetings for 3 hours a day (12 – 3p) on Tuesdays and Weds for 6 weeks! That means – my session schedule is going to be severely impacted for that period of time and I am apologizing in advance for an extremely tight and limited ability to book play time from now until mid Dec. However, I think it will be totally worth it in the end!

Here is a diagram outlining the different quadrants of the Wheel of Consent for the time being for you to get an idea what I am going to be learning.