I wanted to share my adventure report about being the “Guest Mistress” at La Domaine for the weekend. Master R had been inviting me for years to be Guest Mistress, but I’ve always shied away from the spotlight. I tend to struggle with insecurities that make public speaking feel like a huge challenge. The idea of addressing even a small crowd makes my heart race, which is why I stopped teaching kink classes many years ago. But R had been relentless, and I had finally agreed to do this for my 60th birthday back in January 2023; however, that party was canceled. I was actually super relieved at the time, to be honest.

Then, a few weeks ago, the Domina who was scheduled to be there for this past weekend’s final party of 2025 had to cancel on fairly short notice, and he reached out to me again, as he was in a bit of a tight spot. I reluctantly agreed because I really have wonderful memories of my early days at La D. 🙂 (More on this soon.)

I wasn’t sure what being “Guest Mistress” actually entailed, and he told me that the afternoon included a conversation hour of sorts that sounded like it would be more of an unscripted interview, which really caused my nerves to spike! But he assured me it would just be a cozy chat with a small LD audience, followed by a regular play party. I would have much preferred a hands-on workshop where I could plan for it, dive right in, and show people how to have fun, rather than sit and discuss my life, career, and views. But I had already agreed, so I made him promise not to record it. That way, I could feel more comfortable being candid, knowing there wouldn’t be any video or recording of me if I messed it up totally! Hahaha!

In the end, it was not nearly as terrifying as I had feared, and when I told R that, he said they’d have to try harder to be scary next time—just kidding! I don’t remember all that we discussed, but I talked about my many years in the scene, how I got started with Lady Lori in my early “Castle days,” and my dungeon in Mahopac with Nelson. I was asked how I feel things have changed in the scene over the years, and I talked about how the internet, sites like Fetlife, and “cancel culture” make it really easy to meet and network with people, but also to destroy people’s lives over miscommunications with a few taps of the keys.

I shared what I love most about what I do: making people happy, helping them feel seen and understood, and giving them the most amazing experiences of their lives! I offered some words of advice from my vast experience to the MITS (Mistresses in Training) Leona and Chalice, who I am already super fond of, by the way, from meeting them at “Church” during a “Kinky Tastings.” I definitely rambled on about some other stuff too, but in the end, Master R said it was one of the best he’d ever had, but I think he says that to all the Mistresses. 🙂

After that, we took a bit of a break to relax, have an amazing dinner cooked by Master Gary, and then got changed for playtime. Oops, did I forget to mention that one of my dearest playmates came with me for moral support and some fun? My friend Rob, who has gone with me to WOW a couple of times, and we have attended LD parties together in the past, so it was a no-brainer to ask him to be my guest. I was really, REALLY happy to see his smiling, supportive face while I was doing the talk. But now that the hard part was over, I decided I was ready to release some tension, and he is probably the heaviest masochist I have EVER met when it comes to CBT! Like, daahhum! That man loves him some serious cock and ball torture!

So, at some point, I got a bit impatient with the waiting around, and he and I went down to the dungeon a bit earlier than everyone else! We had the whole dungeon to ourselves for at least 20 minutes or so, so I set up my violet wand and began teasing my dear friend all over! I REALLY like to make him squirm! (Oh, sidebar—I have a photo gallery coming very soon of pics taken when he and his lovely girlfriend came to visit me a month or so ago!)

Anyway, we had a blast. I lost track of time, but by the time we ended our scene, the dungeon was pretty much in full swing, and it was time to offer someone else the play area we were in. It’s never polite to be an equipment hog.

Earlier in the evening, R had asked me if I would mind teaching the MITs some “shibari,” but I told him that I thought something a bit more practical would serve them better. Most of the men who come to see us cannot put their arms in full box tie position, so a more adaptable tie would be infinitely more useful for them now. Rob was a trooper! This poor man suffered through being tied up over and over again by me and two beautiful young Dominas! Hey, it’s a tough job, but someone has to do it, right?

Later on, I was given the opportunity to play with “Booty,” who was a member of the LD family and who was sadly moving to Florida soon after. So, I decided to string him up in a box tie and then pin him to a pole to demonstrate some cock and ball bondage ties for the very appreciative ladies. I made sure to include what I affectionately call the “$1000 knot,” a.k.a. the taut line hitch. We finished with a lovely bit of whirlybird fun with a string light. Gosh, I wish I had gotten a pic of that!

I stayed pretty busy but was able to catch sight here and there of some other wonderful play scenes! There was a femdom couple that loved electrical play even more than I do and did a fabulous scene. Chalice did some lovely play with her partner, and Master Gary gave one hell of a beating to a longtime house member. There was so much more going on in the various nooks and crannies that I didn’t get to see, but it was clear that a really good time was had by all!

So, I am sorry that I don’t have loads of fun pics to share with you from the evening—but privacy concerns and all, most dungeons seriously frown upon photos for good reason. These scenery pics were taken while I was off doing my morning hikes, and the selfies were right before I went downstairs for the “talk”. 🙂

I was going to share a memory that came back to me about an evening caught between a “whip and a hot place,” but I think I will save that for another time. Right now, I need to get ready to head out to a “whip share” event in NY.

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