Hey, bondage lovers! 👋
A couple of weeks ago, I put out a little poll asking about your bondage preferences from the gear you like, to the reasons you’re drawn to restraint and wow, did you all deliver! So far 40 of you have shared your thoughts and honestly, I’m still reading through the comments because so many of them touch my heart and make me feel kindred spirits vibes!
Whether you’re a rope bunny, a leather lover, or just rope-curious, here’s a breakdown of what you told me…
🔗SECTION 1: Your Bondage Vibes
How would you describe your experience level with bondage?
Always nice to know where people are on their journey. This blog attracts a good mix of beginners and seasoned kinksters. It makes me happy that so many beginners feel safe enough here to explore and share. You’re all doing great. Seriously.
- Total beginner 24%
- Very experienced 8%
- Comfortable and confident 63%
- I teach/share my bondage knowledge 5%
How would you describe your orientation?
Top, bottom, switch? Who’s on top and who is looking to bottom? 55% bottoms? Call me. let’s do this! 😉
- Switch 42%
- Bottom 55%
- Unsure 3%
What types of bondage interest you the most?
Wow interesting close call splits of nearly thirds – Predicament – leather and functionality – all are fabulous. And I love that greedy 10% of you that want to try it ALL!
- Chains/Metal bondage 3%
- Functional restraint for play or scenes 24%
- Leather restraints, hoods, straight jacket, arm sleeves etc 24%
- Predicament / torture/ intense bondage 28%
- Sensory deprivation (blindfolds, hoods) 3%
- All the above 10%
For Tops & Switches – When it comes to bondage, what are you most interested in learning or improving?
Sounds like it’s time for me to start making a few videos! <grin>
- Aftercare 19%
- Anatomy & placement 25%
- Creating beautiful rope art 14%
- Gear recommendations 33%
- Rope technique & safety 36%
- Scene planning & consent communication 19%
- Interested in Learning 3%
For Bottoms & Switches – What level of bondage do you desire?
How restrictive do you want it, dear? Oooh more than half want it VERY restrictive! I like that too but luckily I can play on all levels.
- Lightly Restrictive 21%
- Moderately Restrictive 47%
- Very Restrictive 53%
For Bottoms & Switches – What type of experience are you seeking in bondage?
What part is the bondage playing in the scene? Is it the main course or just an appetizer?
- Just to be secured in place while we do other things 53%
- Predicament bondage or partial suspensions 40%
- Spread eagle – open & vulnerable ties 66%
- Full suspension 21%
- Artistic ties that look pretty 5%
- Struggle to escape- a Houdini 16%
🛒SECTION 2: Toys, Tools, and Tastes
Do you currently own any bondage gear?
Just curious to see what you are hiding under the bed or in a bag in the closet.
- Nope, not yet 21%
- A full toy bag of tricks 26%
- A few beginner items 47%
- I collect, create, or sell bondage gear 5%
Where do you usually shop for your gear?
I also wanted to know where everyone is shopping for their bondage tools and toys. (I am always looking for new goodies!) Here’s what you shared:
- Amazon or general online retailers 53%
- Local sex toy shops 26%
- Haven’t shopped yet 3%
- Kink-specific online stores 47%
- I collect, create, or sell bondage gear 5%
- Etsy or indie makers 5%
💬 A Few of Your Words
I asked “What’s one thing you wish more people understood about bondage or kink?“
Some of your comments just hit so beautifully, I had to share them.
- Being bi is a good thing!
- It’s such a thrill!
- Time and investment necessary to make the experience enjoyable for all
- The energy exchange between the rigger and bottom
- That it is OK for consenting adults to partake in and enjoy
- It’s not something weird or odd. In fact it’s very liberating in the sense there’s not much better when you enter that ‘sub-space’ and allow another to take complete control.
- Consenting kink is normal, we are not mentally disturbed
- It can be stimulating and FUN!
- Some of us were born that way and can’t explain the need/attraction to kink.
- Why people do it.
- That it’s not a taboo. It’s a wonderful addition to a healthy sex life
- That it is not a bad thing at all! Embrace it!
- That kink is in the individual’s mind so what makes them hot has to be discovered through communication and practice. With time and patience wonderful experiences can found…..
- It’s more than just leather,latex and rope. It’s also emotional, mental and even spiritual.
- That it is not all about pain. It’s about one persons submission to another in TPE. Allowing natural primal instincts to evolve.
- It’s just so hot
- Tim (from the past) no longer have functional e-mail – but woeking on it
- How wonderfully stress relieving it can be!
- That there is nothing un-normal about it
- How difficult it is to connect with a local kinkster when I have a physical handicap.
🖤 Final Thoughts
Doing this poll reminded me just how personal kink is and how much variety exists within something as seemingly simple as “being tied up.” Whether you’re into strict immobilization or gentle decorative rope, what matters most is consent, connection, and trust.
Thank you to everyone who participated. I might be running more polls soon (thinking about exploring corporal play next), so stay tuned—and keep getting kinky, safely and joyfully!
With rope burns and love,
Mz Suzanne SxySadist 💋
It looks like you you had a good response to your survey.
Hood me!
Collar me!
Gag me!
Wrap me!
Keep me!
The hours are never enough.
Thank You Mistress Suze!